I've had friends question my reasoning for micromanaging how many kids they(my played sims) have.... I finally explained why tonight. My sims I've been playing had four kids- two of each- ranging from infant to teen. The youngest kid had a blowout and everyone old enough to change her was ignoring her. Other times, one of the parents who had her would pawn her off to the other parent though the one who already had her was set to either feed/change/bathe/etc. her. Should I just scrap the save completely and restart, though it's been 26 real days, now, since I started the file I want to scrap, or try to keep it going?

My main save I have played since 2014! have played since 2014! I play rotationally and usually with aging off most of the time.. I get attached to my sims. When I get tired of playing one household, I will change households. Occasionally as sims progress in jobs and wealth they will change homes. Many singles will break into pairs, etc. I try to make my households different so it is not so repetitive. I have all packs so there is quite a variety to play my households. I prefer micromanaging so that doesn’t bother me, though in larger families sometimes I will see some cute things happening like a grandmother visiting with her teen age granddaughter, sitting on her bed and talking to her. Or a grandfather and his grandson dancing to the radio, while I’m tending to another sim. Those kind of things warm my heart. I would just say if one family is frustrating you move on to another, or create a new household. I have one pair of sims that love to vacation, another sim that enjoys dating around, one family just moved from the city to have a horse ranch. My artist from the city moved to tartosa to open an art gallery. One family are writers. I have many families to choose from and they are interconnected as friends and acquaintances. I have children’s groups of friends, groups of scouts etc., a group of socialite women that get together at a cafe occasionally, some criminal sims that meet at a lounge and play poker, a group of teenagers that hang out at houses, malls or arcades….,a lot of different varieties of things to do.

When family gameplay starts to annoy me a bit I move onto the next household. I don't scrap a save as I'm building a community in one save file. I want to keep seeing how the families get on and then have new families befriend them. I like to make kids clubs and invite the kids from my previous households to keep in touch with them. I also link them as cousins to keep extending the family beyond that household. I'm very maternal over my little simlets. If I see them around the game I do check if they look happy but if I see them at the hospital I freak out (tell self they are only pixels repeatedly, calm self 🥺).But my biggest tip for family gameplay is reward traits. Everyone has Steel Bladders, everyone has Carefree and Hardly Hungry and Incredibly Friendly, Seldom Sleepy. Basically any reward traits that make them lower maintenance. I either get them for the whole family including kids by completing the Making Money Scenario at the start of the household or by using cheats to add aspiration points. But I refuse to play families without them, I just find it impossible to juggle all those needs if it's a large household. 🏡

26 real days is a lot of time to be put into a family like that. So first of all, congrats on making it this far with them! Secondly, I'd try to keep it going if I were you. I'm a micromanager of my own sims, so I hear you on that. But I've sternly told myself that I'm going to try to let my non active sims have free will more, when I play. (Though right now there's only one sim in the household I'm playing. So we'll see how good I hold to my own stern tasking once there's more!)

Please don‘t give up. You put so much time and efford into this save.

I play on long life and find the newborn, infant and toddler stages tedius very quickly, I will often play another household without little ones, at the same time and wait till they age up. If I get really fed up I bake a cake and have a birthday party. But I would never give up on them, I just couldn't do that to my simmies.

I'm sick and tired........ Should I just give up?

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simsplayer818
Hero
2 months ago
GameGirl2168a I add them a couple of different ways depending on the size of the family I'm going to be playing and the ages involved. I sometimes create a big family with adult or elder parents with grown kids at adult or young adult age, then (from live mode or their relationship will be at zero) I'll split the grown up kids into different households then play each household in turn. So their kids will all be cousins as they have them. I give the kids the Incredibly Friendly reward trait so they can introduce themselves to the family members they don't live with and get a relationship boost. Sometimes I make family clubs too (with Get Together).
Another way I do it is to play a household then add a sibling for a parent as I finish their household, move them out from live mode again so they know each other and play them next. I might add kids for them before moving them out or they may have kids later. I'm doing that now actually. I just went back to one of my favourite families and added a young adult sister for the dad. Her little nephew calls her all the time lol you wouldn't think she was only added in CAS yesterday 😂.
I cheat the Beloved Trait so that the family relationships don't decline traits.equip_trait trait_Legendary and I buy them the Always Welcome reward trait so they can visit any time and be like family instead of a regular guest and make themselves at home.
If I have any trouble adding relationships and family dynamics in CAS I use cas.fulleditmode to get around that. When families have kids they do show up in the relationship panel as Cousin/Nephew/Niece/Grandchild. I can't remember about the family tree though. I'll have to look at that tomorrow to remind myself. I think they do show up when the parent is clicked on, I think the kids show on the tree then 🤔. But I'll check.
Update: I checked my family trees and for me I click on the parent to expand to show kids and their part of the family tree. It's a little annoying that it's necessary to do that. I'd prefer to see the whole family tree on one screen. But it does show the other family members from different households.
GalacticGal
Legend
31 days ago
I've had my Family-Oriented Sims sometimes managing to simply ignore the infant sitting in a very bad diaper, or so hungry/tired, she can't do more than fuss. When I can't get them to respond properly, I find myself saving and exiting the game. Usually, the next time I power up, my Sims respond like the good parents they generally are. Rather than scrap your family, unless you really wish to, try taking a well-meaning break in playing.
GalacticGal
Legend
31 days ago
Actually, I tend to play large families. I play with full autonomy on, so that I can focus on one Sim at a time, to help them complete goals, finish homework, or any variety of things. That way, the others will mostly take care of themselves. Plus, it's fun to see what they'll do on their own.
GameGirl2168a
Seasoned Ace
31 days ago
Wow. Such great info, simsplayer818. Thank you. Now my mind is bursting with familial ideas for several of my sims. 😄

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