Just a suggestion, feel free to take it or not, but... rather than deleting and starting over and over again... as it sounds like you are already very attached to this family, there is no reason you can't start to work on the household, save it, and then continue to go back to CAS in full edit mode and add or change the physical appearance, outfits, and traits periodically as new ones are added. Then you will have the fun of continuously working on the household, and once fairies or other features are added, you won't have to start from scratch all at once, you can just make your edits and jump into the story more quickly at that point.
