I feel you op.
I would like for more masculine swagger type flirting interactions when my guys are spitting game (flirting) at my ladies in the club.
Even if I'm playing with female Sims they'll sometimes initiate flirting in a coy way. Flirting can be fun I would at times when I was younger. Basically putting the signal out there that you're interested, but I was never gonna do the actual chasing. So in my game, for the first date I'll switch households if need be in order for my guys to initiate the date and pay. They ask the female Sim to be their girlfriend, and they are the one to propose to the woman Sim.