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TimeTraveller23's avatar
8 years ago

Romantic Relationship help?

I never heard of anyone having this problem, but if there are threads on it that I have missed, please link me to them.

I find romantic relationships pretty difficult in the Sims 4. I know that most people find them easy in the Sims 4 (I do, compared to the the Sims 1), but they are still very difficult.

I think it makes it worse that sims get embarrassed every time a romantic interaction fails. I am considering cheating aspiration points so I can give them the shameless trait.

Is there like a secret to chemistry between sims or something because I have no luck in this department.

9 Replies

  • it seems a lot of sims can get together easy but there are some that you have to make more effort, sometimes it helps to compliment appearance then pick a friendly social and just go back and forth until first kiss pops up.
  • Start with "safe" romantic interactions first (compliment appearance and flirt are good) and be aware of your target's mood. Keep an eye on the relationship bar and when it's about 30% romantic start working in the "bolder" interactions.

    It really is pretty easy IMO.
  • Agreeing with most here.

    I also try to get them to at least friends level before I start doing any romantic interactions. This seems to "soften" the flirting and sims seem to accept it a lot better than if they are less than.

    Also invest in some "romantic decor." Placing objects with the "flirty" emotional aura gets everyone in the mood and makes interactions easier.
  • I tried having one of my sims just hit on anything that moved. With max charisma, romantic trait, good kisser etc etc... he still got rejected 60% of the time.

    When I tried making friends first then it was easier. I found that you can't just do it in one day... Have to meet and hangout a few times. :)
  • For me, I noticed that the first romantic interest will be harder then the rest but not by much. And I notice some sims might be slightly harder but not many sims are like that. Most are pretty easy, even if they are married and family oriented, good, etc. For the first sim, I will always try to get to friends first before I hit on them. And then, I compliment appearance, flirt, compliment, flirt, and then try something new but not something to forward. I never use pick up line or ask a risque question unless it is in my sim's personality too as those seem to fail me quite often. Save the romantic interactions for when you are ready to spam them with it. If you go one romance and then one friendly and keep switching, it will be hard to get into the amorous exchange level. Once you are there, you can do friendly interactions but make sure you do more romantic ones then friendly ones. Otherwise, it will drop to pleasant or casual discussion. I made a sim that slept with everything in town since it was the fastest way to raise the social and fun bar and I also made a widow challenge load and it is basically always the same for me. Making friends is harder for me imo since it is very easy to get a sim to sleep with your sim and when they do, it raises the romance bar a lot. Also, it raises the fun and social need fast so it is a time saver. haha

  • sweetonsims's avatar
    sweetonsims
    Seasoned Veteran
    8 years ago
    I usually use two methods

    First of all try not to have any other sims in the conversation - it is almost sure to fail.

    1 - get your active sim in a playful mood then make a flirtatious joke. It always works to get the romantic target sim in a flirty mood. Once they are in a flirty mood use light flirts until they are either very flirty or the pink bar is 1/4 way up. Then they can start with more heavy romantic socials.

    2 - get your sims in a romantic mood by either watching romantic tv, having a romantic environment, sims in the business career can gossip about office romances, your sim can take a steamy shower or bath with petals and then make cupid juice and leave it there for the target sim to drink.

    Good luck!
  • My best advice to you, is to work on getting the friendship bar about half-way full and then work on the romantic side of things. I, too, ran into the whole embarrassment that occurred during such interactions. Slowly, I was able to realize the friendship bar wasn't high enough. Best of luck!
  • On my serial romantics every time I meet a sim they do the "hands off" flirts first. So ask if single, flirt, give a rose, compliment appearance. Then also do all the charisma stuff and just talk or even cloud gaze. Next time you meet them or arrange a meeting same thing.
    You can get it going on the fast track also if you get the flirty aura going of course. If the other sim is uncomfortable, tense, sad ect.. it's best to either wait till they are better or try another time you can up the friendship at that point as long as you are aware of their traits.. You know like hot-heads don't like to be the target of michief. If they are dazed go for it unless they dislike you lol.
    Also if your sim is confident and the other is in a good mood or flirty mood use bold pick up line it works every time for me.
    Some sims take longer married or sims in a relationship depending on traits, unflirty sims get tense until the relationship is pretty good.

    Or if your a nice player just get to know them well and go slow ..

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