Separating/ Divorcing your Sims - TS4

When I've had divorced parents I usually have the kids live with whoever they have a higher relationship with. If they are kids then I'll have them spend time at the other parent's house on the weekends by switching them to the other parents household. If they are a toddler and younger then I invite the other parent over on the weekend to spend time with the toddler/baby. If they are teens then It's based on how high their relationship is. If it's low then the teen usually chooses to not see their parent on the weekend but hang out with friends. If they have a high relationship then the teen will split the weekend between their parent and friends.

The kid is still just a toddler, but I can't wait to find out how it works out. At the minute, I've moved the mother into another neighbourhood and the dad has kind of sole custody. Although the kid they have now is only biologically the dad's as it's an alien. They had a child previously but he got taken away under the mother's watch, hence the divorce :S

It really all depends.

I had one family that had two children. The parents ended up splitting. ( It was an alien family and the wife memory erased her husband, when she tried to kiss him/romance his rejected, bars went into the red ). I moved him into a new house and designed a kids room. Every four sim days, I would use manage world to move the kids from one house to the other, and played as the kids.

I have also had it to where one parent just took full custody and the other spouse just got kicked to the curb and whatever happened to them happened to them.

My sims just got divorced. The toddler went with the mum, and dad came around to visit often. As soon as he aged to a child, he went to go live with the father. I guess we'll see how it goes!

@Gruffman I didn't know it was an option for a sim to erase another sim's memory. If this is alien-sim specific, I have just become very excited about my sim's alien toddler ageing up to teen etc. While she was a baby the parents still lived together but the mother performed minimal childcare tasks as she Hates Children.
@the1975 I think you're right. Alexandrea will probably stay with her dad, Luca. He's really friendly though, so maybe he will allow a good relationship between his ex-wife Monica and his baby Alexandrea. Although it's not entirely called for as the two don't have a strong bond and the baby isn't biologically hers.

@kemisz I've never played a divorced couple with a child before so I can't wait to see how it turns out too :) At the minute, alien Alexandrea is still sad because her big brother was taken away but she'll come round soon and is already gaining toddler skills fast.

"player2;c-16262620" wrote:
@Gruffman I didn't know it was an option for a sim to erase another sim's memory. If this is alien-sim specific, I have just become very excited about my sim's alien toddler ageing up to teen etc. While she was a baby the parents still lived together but the mother performed minimal childcare tasks as she Hates Children.
@the1975 I think you're right. Alexandrea will probably stay with her dad, Luca. He's really friendly though, so maybe he will allow a good relationship between his ex-wife Monica and his baby Alexandrea. Although it's not entirely called for as the two don't have a strong bond and the baby isn't biologically hers.

It is under mischief and called memory erase. It is alien specific. Sims with a high mischief skill will do it randomly on their own. The one sim will keep all their memories, so whatever friendship/romantic bar will remain as it was, the "victim" will have the friendship/romantic bar reset to zero.

@Gruffman Well this is exciting! I still have to age up and play all the Gen 2 kids of my family, and Alexandrea is Gen 3, but I cannot wait to age her up now :lol:

It only affects the two sims and their relationships, all others remain as they were. Basically, the alien causes the target sim to forget them, and only them ... but the aliens relationship to that sim remains unchanged ... until they start getting hit with negative moodlets from awkward conversations, refused romantic actions. Similar to the vampire 'drain life spirit' affect.

And yes, aliens with mischief skill will do it randomly, on their own or the player could initiate it as well. In some ways, it is useful. Your on a date with the sim, something goes horribly wrong, you can have the other sim forget everything and start over brand new. Most of the time, its annoying. I've been playing a lot with aliens through multiple generations and its annoying when mom wipes out dads memory regarding her. It isn't so bad when said mom erases their teens memory, the teen can still has the other parent to go to or help with homework or whatnot ... but when it is the spouse, it is an automatic divorce. Even if you do get the relationship back up, the one sim has to become boy/girlfriend, proposed to and re-married. When it happens now, I just move out the sim who did it and leave the other now single parent in the household.

Mischief is the key to it. If sims don't do mischief behavior, there isn't a problem. The sad part though 'trollin teh forums' is considered mischief ... and sims are addicted to the computer.

I have played Sims, since Sims2. I played 3 and now am playing 4. I can count on ONE hand the number of divorces I allowed in my game. The very first one only came about because I had created a live-in Nanny for my game, (this was in Sims2) and while I was busy tending to one Sim in the family, the Dad got home and suddenly my attention got brought around to him out in the backyard with said Nanny. An idea tickled the back of my brain, and I decided to see how the game handles divorces. So, I allowed those two Sims to carry on in an untoward manner and eventually, he got himself kicked out of the house! The children (five of them) cried so hard, it broke my heart.

In Sims3 my poor singer Sim came home to find his wife had put their newborn baby out on the front lawn at night in the POURING rain! (The Sim did this autonomously, too.) I had them 'talk' about the situation, after Dad rescued his little son. Guess things got out of hand, because the fight got very bad between them. I decided to see if they could salvage their relationship anyway. He had another gig to perform one evening a short time later. Again the weather was rather inclement and it rained. Once again, for no good reason (not a routing problem, no she was NOT insane) Torrie did it again (autonomously). Took that helpless newborn outside and placed him on the lawn — IN THE RAIN. (The baby cried piteously, I could barely stand it.) I brought my singer Sim home immediately after his gig (when he would normally go dancing to unwind, afterwards) to rescue his son. Yes, they fought again. Suddenly, the interaction for break-up was in the menu. This was very sad for Erik who had broken up so many times, prior, thinking he'd finally found the One. But, I sat in my desk chair and contemplated what to do. I deemed the female evil and punched the break-up button. Then I immediately went into Edit Town, to remove her from the household, so she couldn't take the baby with her! I put her into an apartment. Erik then went to the Courthouse and got a divorce. Yes, he took heat from it, since he was a 5-Star celebrity. But, considering he had full custody of the child, he sued for slander — and won. This is my Sim, whose second fiancée recklessly flirted with his brother-in-law at the family Gift-Giving Party. (Her punishment? I put her into the Bin.)

I keep thinking in the back of my mind that there was possibly one more, but it's not coming forward at this time. I play as I live, same code of ethics. My maternal grandparents were married 50 years, same with my parents. I'll be married for 44 in May.