I could not agree more. I have returned to certain families while doing a rotation through the world and have found every manner of disaster in progress or had happened during my absence. How do three Sims with level 10 cooking skills starve to death in their own home? Why do pets run away because of a lack of attention? Whenever I play certain Sims they need to be in bed by midnight but when I return to them in the middle of the night they are partying at the nightclub or playing video games with a full energy bar. I was playing another family when I got a notification that something bad was going on at the Aldrich household. I saved my game then entered the lot in question. Dear Grimmy was having a field day there, reaping all four YA's souls in my absence, as well as 'taking the soul' of their dog. I never did find out where their cat ended up. I have had the dubious pleasure of fixing every plumbing fixture in a home upon my return as well as finding a stranger had been invited to move in. Said strangers were often unemployed, a slob, or a kleptomaniac. And had his sights set on marrying my main female Sim in that household.
Most of those unpleasant surprises happened during the early years of Sims4, and don't happen very often now. Some of that is because of mods I use and some of it is because the teams tuned the game a bit better through updates. I also turned off autonomy for all my Sims. But it would be nice if dirty dishes weren't left on every available table or kitchen counter in some of the houses I play. Or my gardening Sims harvested their crops on their own. At least the pets aren't sick or starving every time I return during a rotation now. That little issue caused me to not place pets in any home for a long time. I'd also like to see my employed Sims go to work on their own without my hovering over them. I don't have many career-oriented Sims as I prefer to play freelancers. But once in a while I like to have at least one Sim in a career. And it would be pretty sweet if those Sims went to work rather than hang out at the local bar or spend the day fishing in Granite Falls. I finally ended up changing his Aspiration to Angler so he could at least 'work' at doing something he enjoys. :)