1, 4 or 7.
Seven may not necessarily lead to getting disowned by the family. In the 19th century non romantic friends of the same gender could be very close and exchange touches, embraces etc. without it being seen as gay. So they could hide their relationship's exact nature for a long time.
Plus, if they live at the frontier where few or no women are available it is even better. Sailors, cowboys, explorers and lumberjacks woohooing wasn't exactly condoned, but it happened a lot. Only a very few of those pairings were actually in love.