What aspect of your personal life do you want your Sims to experience?

I would also like them to experience despair and proper enmity. I would like Sims to react more honestly to negative situations and not "hug it out" and go on with their smiley day. Essentially, a little more grit to the game, even if it's exaggerated and humorous. I'm tired of "optimistic". Consistent optimism in my video game is kind of boring.