Why is it rude to cook at somebodys house?

I've no idea why this exists, but it's always annoyed me. I used to use the "always welcome" reward trait, but now I have a mod that allows me to go over and do whatever, without having to worry about adding a trait to every Sim I play.

"StrawberryYogurt;c-17400633" wrote:
Its not somerhing to "fix" since its always been a part of the series, my question is why is it a feature anyways. I guess to stop your from living in someone else's house?

It hasn't always been there. I had a Sim who was homeless in this game at the first. He went around to homes and cooked, showered and slept in TS4. I loved that. Because I am their god. I rule all houses. Lol But anyway it was patched to the best of my knowledge to be inapproriate when they needed to make Always Welcome more relevant than it was because at first it did nothing because Sims were always welcome anyway.

First time my friend helped herself in my mother's kitchen I was aghast. This was in RL. I was raised you just don't do that, nor do you touch the items on your friend's dresser top. You don't peek into cabinets in their bathroom, either. Also, we never, ever, EVER just walked in. Took me a very long time to even just walk-in at my parents' house after I moved out. Even then I would knock as I was opening the door.

It's strange to think of the societal rules of good behavior that once were. This appears to be a hold-over, especially when the Sims are family. That one doesn't make sense to me, despite how I was raised. If our Sims were given the interaction to 'ask' first, but there isn't such an interaction, else they should be free to prepare food. It's very hard when the active Sim is the 'guest' and the host Sim is starving, for instance. The natural response is to have the active Sim fix some food. Just to be scolded and/or asked to leave the premises. :open_mouth:

I can understand why they have it for friends houses. I wouldn't just go to a friends house IRL and start cooking with out asking first. But with family I don't get why they would kick you out. I wouldn't kick out my siblings if they came over just because they wanted to cook something.

It would be nice if you could set restrictions for Sims you invite over. Like don't read my books, or eat MY leftovers or stand in the bathroom using my mirror... I invited you over to talk, not to be a bad guest.

At least the computer security settings is a step in the right direction.

"Cinebar;c-17400867" wrote:


It hasn't always been there. I had a Sim who was homeless in this game at the first. He went around to homes and cooked, showered and slept in TS4. I loved that. Because I am their god. I rule all houses. Lol But anyway it was patched to the best of my knowledge to be inapproriate when they needed to make Always Welcome more relevant than it was because at first it did nothing because Sims were always welcome anyway.

Idk why it wasnt in TS4 since inception, but its always been in the series is what I meant.

Exactly! A “ask permission to....” interaction would make sense.

"Netzspannung;c-17400649" wrote:
I would personally consider it extremely rude IRL if anyone came to my house to cook, shower or sleep - even more so if they'd try to feed my pet or toddler - without asking first. So my question would not be why this is in the game, but rather why you cannot ask for permission to do certain things while you are at another Sim's house. For close friends and family the answer should always be yes. But since the 'Always Welcome' trait, which has been mentioned a bunch of times in this thread, is so cheap it doesn't really bother me while playing the game.

@Feisbukaite yeah that is one of my biggest annoyances when visiting a different household that has small children. When visiting all of a sudden the sim your playing is responsible for the welfare of another sim’s offspring. I can’t cook at your place but I’m supposed to take care of your kids, that’s messed up.

Actually at a Calhouni wedding, my characters supposed to be married, the hired cooks didn't make a cake for the wedding candles. so sent the groom in to bake the cake in the stove, then he got kicked out. Ironic.

"JC1979;c-17401268" wrote:
@Feisbukaite yeah that is one of my biggest annoyances when visiting a different household that has small children. When visiting all of a sudden the sim your playing is responsible for the welfare of another sim’s offspring. I can’t cook at your place but I’m supposed to take care of your kids, that’s messed up.

you don't have to.