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TygerNight's avatar
TygerNight
6 years ago

My Sim parents sometimes refuse to hug a toddler back :(

It seems trivial I guess but out of every 3 or 4 times I have a toddler hug a parent (to fulfill a whim) the parent refuses the poor kid. It gives them a double negative hit to their relationship (2 ...
Gednaa's avatar
Gednaa
Seasoned Ace
4 years ago

My toddler asked the parent for a hug and the parent refused, which was bad enough, but then I looked and the parent had a festering grudge against the toddler.  It's heartbreaking to see this happen in my game with parents that are family orientated and good.  A festering grudge for being asked for a hug from a toddler????  That's cruel and I don't want to see this happen in my game as I keep everyone's traits correct to be parents. They have emotional control too, so I don't understand how this is happening.  I've had it happen with two toddlers by the same parent now.  I feel like kicking him out at the moment! Yet it's him that keeps getting whims to have babies!!  I had a pretty bad childhood and like some players, like to play The Sims to live out a life that I would have liked, so this is upsetting.  I took them to the park, they were all having a lovely time playing then BOOM! hug rejected and festering grudge!  What on earth is going on?  This would/should never happen in real life, so why is it happening in a game that I'm supposed to be in control of?

SheriGR's avatar
SheriGR
Hero
4 years ago

@Gednaa I'm sorry this is happening! I had a couple of questions... 

  • Do you have any Mods/CC? It so have you tested the issue without them?
  • How long has the issue been happening? Is it since a certain update?
  • Does this issue happen with any other Sim? I'm wondering if there's a possibility the Sim has something buggy going on, has a hidden trait, or it's some odd whim issue, etc.? 

If it's not a widespread issue and just this Sim bugging out, I would try a few things:

  • Try resetting the Sim
  • You could delete the Sim and add a new dad and cheat in the relationship.
  • You could try adding a Mod that allows you to check for hidden traits and see if that's the issue: Show/Search Sim Info Mod
  • You could try saving the family/household into your library and placing them in a new game save and see if this resets the Sim/clears out the Sim's issues/bugginess.

Please let us know how it goes!

  • wahini2024's avatar
    wahini2024
    4 years ago
    @SheriGR Oh I had this really bad with one family. One toddler, a twin, was a hugger and it gave a bitter grudge to the dad and hurt sentiment to his twin. Just because he hugged them 3x in a row.
    What?
    That toddler constantly experienced shared sadness for his twin and father who had some negative sentiment moodlets when near that child. It was so awful I manually removed the sentiments. I try to avoid this now when I see a toddler who wants to hug more than twice and stop it in the queue but it's ridiculous that it would cause such negative results.
    • SheriGR's avatar
      SheriGR
      Hero
      4 years ago

      @wahini2024 I agree that is sad and frustrating. If there cannot be any glitch found (you could try the troubleshooting steps I mentioned above), and if it is therefore an intended design or oversight, I think it's great that this issue is placed here as feedback and hope that this would then be considered for adjustment in future updates.

      • Gednaa's avatar
        Gednaa
        Seasoned Ace
        4 years ago

        It only seems to happen with one particular sim, so I keep the toddlers away from him till they're kids.  I don't see any hidden traits that would make him any different from any of my other sims, as being a boring old so and so, I tend to program them pretty much the same!  So no hidden traits, so I guess a buggy parent.  His identical twin is just fine with kids.  Just the one (called Loveday - the irony!). When the child offers a hug, he puts out his hand and says neeb, neeb.  and the toddler looks hurt. Yet HE has the festering grudge not the toddler!  I do have mods, but they don't do this to my other sims, so it's weird and frustrating.  Thanks for suggestions and I hope if it's a bug it can be fixed.  🙂. Meanwhile no more kids for Loveday and his spouse!  I separated Loveday from his family and put him in a haunted house for two weeks as punishment!  He was very upset, being family orientated.  Nobody missed him.  Angel raised the kids himself and aged them up to children, then Loveday moved back in and nobody seemed aware he'd been gone!  lol

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