Autonomous Insulting/Mean Interactions/Fighting (Patch 1.108.349)

Still need help with this bug Sim now has the Soulmate Aspiration completed. She is still arguing with partner and fighting him. I need help please. 

Hi my sims are being mean for no reason. They have no bad sentiments and are in a good mood and still will insult and yell at each other. It doesn’t matter what family. They’re always mean to each other. Also my mods are up to date and I’ve turned off autonomy and they still continue.

Hello having trouble with my Legendary sim on PS5 she keeps fighting her spouse which is leaves her in conflict with them this has happened with 3 different sims. Trying to keep peaceful but it’s hard when you feel like the game system is fighting against you. Btw she’s also an alluring sims. Just need some help please this is still happening. 

As I use mods my save is useless to you, but I can describe the situation. For me it's not the mean actions in general that are the problem, it's the mischief actions, with the sole exception of the fight interaction which also happens autonomously and without reason. For me those two issues, autonomous and excessive mischief, and autonomous fighting started to happen at the same time. The fight-interaction is now also always available to choose, whether the sims are angry at each other or not. 

A few examples: 

• Guy calls his girlfriend and asks her to come over. She does, comes inside and start fighting - there had been no prior interaction between the two, there are no resentful feelings between the two and she does not have any trait that would explain her behavior. 
• A guy is grieving, he complains about it to his girlfriend, she buzzes him with the hand buzzer then starts a fight. The two hate each other after this. 
• A party, two relatives get into a fight without reason. There had been no mean interactions between them prior to this, nor were any of them angry. 

The "I cry if I want to" moodlet comes from a permissive family dynamic, something which will make the child permanently angry around the parent. There is a bug-report about that here: 

[GRO] Permissive dynamic leads to permanently angry sims | EA Forums - 12307274 

I just updated my game, so my mods were disabled. I made a mother and daughter and as soon as I moved them in the daughter laid into the mother. She got the "I'll cry if I won't to moodlet. Her trait are lovebug flirty and outgoing. It's a bit much, when you have sims that haven't even talked to each other just getting into fights.

No mod, no cc, base game

she just came to the party, he fight...

They use romantic and mean actions autonomously; even a faithful Sim flirts with other Sims besides her spouse.

Hello all,

If any of you are still encountering this on the latest game version could you share your Electronic Arts folder as well as a video of this happening?

You can find this folder under Documents-> Electronic Arts.

If so, please send me a DM with a link to your folder and video. Instructions can be found here: https://forums.ea.com/idea/the-sims-4-bug-reports-en/information-how-to-send-user-files-to-the-sims-4-team/5048472

Thanks!

The autonomous fighting  just started happening in my legacy save as of last night. I never have used mods or cc and the last update I did was the Nov 4, 2025 one which I did a couple weeks ago (I play offline for awhile after updates) & I played for a number of hours with no issue before this started. Both of my sims had active fears and one was a ghost so idk if that could be contributing at all but idk why it would. 

The autonomous flirting which has been going on since the update (maybe before too can’t remember, I don’t notice that one as the sims I’m currently playing with have no jealousy and are either polyamorous or in open relationships or single) is a bit annoying but not a huge deal but now randomly sims with good relationships or who have just met and are having a nice conversation or with no relationship are randomly either fighting my sims for no reason or fighting each other or the vendors in food stalls. 

If this keeps up it could be game breaking because one fight and the sims immediately despise each other with a full or mostly full red bar.

It is very much like what happens when a spellcaster sim gets the curse of unwanted hostility except these are not spellcasters and definitely not cursed. 

My sims are not hot headed, mean, evil, etc they do not have any traits that should trigger this and I keep NAPs turned off so it’s not that. 

This happened in my save as well. High school sweethearts, aged up at the same party and then moved out together to go to college. They're flirting and having a good time and out of NOWHERE they start fighting?? I use a handful of mods but none of them tweak interactions.