I had to move both partners out (so there is room in the household.
delete partners relationship (using MCC) Enter CAS and create two random elders. It was letting me connect only one of the two to partner 1, so I left CAS and used MCC to assign the other parent to partner 1.
Delete relationships for partners again. Also may need to delete relationship from partner 2 and partner 1s parents you just made. Go back in CAS and do the same thing with partner 2 and assigning to random parents to them.
Basically, you need to create 2 parents for each partner and will likely need to keep deleting relationships whenever anything is adjusted to ensure the sibling thing doesn’t come back. After I had to parents for each, it finally fixed itself.
In then reintroduced them. After that, I cheated their friendship and romantic relationships back to max