The past 2 weeks of Apex was the worst experience I had with Apex

I know people don't like to hear this, OP, but...you just need to abandon more games.

There's really not that much of a penalty at all when you think about it.  And you really save yourself both time and sanity, rather than put up with a miserable game.  Let your mates go 2v3+ and save yourself some mental health