Connection to server timed out (code:leaf)

ONCE I actually get the game to load, I will then choose any selection casual 2/3 way, Match Ranked or Arena.  Clicking on them turns the game into an instant lag fest, the sound of the game sounds choppy as though you've just maxed out the CPU.  However checking the task manager reveals that it doesn't use any extra cpu/hdd when it asks like it is crashing.  It then will disconnect saying (Connection to serve time out (code:net) every single time.  

Additional Notes: once a selection has lagged out and come too, if you choose a different one of the 3 selections to choose from, they are now invisible and then THIS second go around is what causes the came to complete disconnection and error.

This has gone on since the latest patch and nothing changes it, restarts, reinstalls, nothing.  

I have 1800x ryzen, 32GB of 3000mhz ram, a 1080sc GPU and a 250/20 internet connection with an average ping of 38 to the St Louis connection.  

Can someone at EA un-**** whatever it was they did to the last patch because the game ran PERFECTLY and FAST before this patch.  I almost have no desire to play anymore with this.