Let’s rephrase the question - do any of your friends who you know in person, who live close to you, have the same issues when playing H2H mode?
I personally have terrible lag, as do most people who live in the same city as me, because I am at the lower end of Australia, which is a very long way from the nearest server.
consequently my game lag is terrible, no matter where I play, no matter what device I use, and gets worse the further I get away from the city areas.
so - if you are similarly a long way from the nearest server, your H2H will be terrible, as it will be for your friends who live nearby.
if your nearby friends don’t have similar issues with h2h, then you need to check your device and wifi settings.