Re: [ARCHIVED] Infant/Toddlers needs Declined While playing another lot

@A62047 Hmmm... I have not left for an off-lot career with my Sim with an infant or newborn - maybe not ever - but with that qualifier said, are you saying that the toddler gets cared for well by the Sims staying on the lot, but not the infant? Did you ever combine a newborn's care with and off-lot career in the past and did you find then that the adults on lot behaved differently in caring well for the newborn?

Since the infant has more needs and cannot communicate them the same, did you try hiring a nanny while you're gone to work? Or perhaps while the infant is young you could send the Sim to work on their own and stay on the lot and make sure others care for them?

I'm currently playing with a butler on my lot with 2 infants. I found that the butler did a fair amount of care for the newborns (I kept one at that stage quite a while, then had another baby on the lot as well so it's much like caring for twins.). I actually found the butler did a better job than a nanny I tried on another household. I haven't had a lot of time watching him with the infants yet, though.

Yes, this is happening to me too. It’s so annoying! When my sim gets home from his detective job, his infant daughter is lying in the middle of the sidewalk halfway across the neighborhood with her needs severely low! And she is typically in her crib when he leaves for work. 

I really wish there weren’t so many major glitches with the Sims 4 all the time. 

I've had this problem for years, I hoped the new family friendly style features would improve some of it. I have problems with nannies and butlers so I stopped using them. I was sent Elders most of the time who did very little work or none at all and I don't like to judge on appearances but they looked, well creepy! I'm on Console so no mods and we are penalised for using cheats (honestly, have they played the Sims? Obviously not).

The hired staff just stood there or kind of shuffled around, they did nothing for the children. My Sims would return from work and had to start cleaning up the house and the kids needs were so low that they needed urgent attention or they'd be taken away. It was so frustrating to watch if the Sim was at a regular career job, I would just be watching the staff do nothing and depending on the age of the child, not be able to control any of it. At least with child age Sims you can still control them, so I could get them to get their own food and pick up around the house. It looked so neglectful that it made for uncomfortable viewing, seeing a distressed little Simlet being ignored.

So my workaround was for a parent to be self employed. I use Register with Ministry of Labour a lot. The Sim with the worst nanny was an artist. So she quit her job, painted at home and opened a retail lot. I added a family flat there too so she could work there and have her son on site with her and still have home comforts around him.

With child age Sims although they can be left at home, I'm not keen on that so they join after school clubs if their parents are both at work. IRL the kids in my circle don't get left alone until about age 14. There's a few times I've met the school bus on the doorstep for my friends tween kids lol...and for some reason it's always a day they get off the bus in tears for something so I always carry chocolate! But with the Sims I recommend not saving the game while an infant is being minded, so that if they are taken away you can cancel the day by exiting without saving...and then fire the nanny!

My Sim doesn't have an active job, but when I leave the house with one of them and the infant is left home alone with the other, same thing happens. No one cares for the infant. Eventually the infant's hunger goes alarmingly low and I send the Sim I'm out with back home to feed the infant. Often I'll find the infant starving and filthy on the floor, sometimes far away from the house. 

Hello to all. 

  In my situation? I have two adults, one is a doctor, the other is a scientist, and there are 2 children. It doesn't matter how old the children are, because this has been happening since the birth of the first child. Both children are under the age of the child life stage. The male adult is Johnny Zest, I did change his traits with a potion and career from entertainer to scientist career., and he's is married to a female that I created before they were married. When I join Johnny or his wife at work, and the other sim is at home with the children? The parent at home will take care of themselves, but not the children. To the point where the children are going to be taken away by the authorities. Almost every need is in the red or about to be in the red. And I have to spend the whole night, before one of the adults has to work, in order to straighten out the children's needs. Leaving zero time for anyone to do anything else. Thank goodness that I gave the parents the seldom sleepy trait. Otherwise I would never be able to keep this family alive or together. This is not just inconvenient, it's broken above and beyond. The children's needs were so bad, at numerous times, it has become a plague not an inconvenience. I've never played any sims in these careers, before the Growing Together DLC, so I don't know if it is connected. But I don't have the Growing Together DLC., either. So, it's anyone's guess?

   I hope that the information that I gave can help to find a solution. Please fix this? A good day and my best wishes to all. 

Yeah, whenever I leave an infant at home with other members of the household their needs aren't cared for at all. It's honestly better to bring everyone and send the infant to daycare, which seems...really wrong, role playing wise. Like, I was paying 2 parents who were VERY attentive, and I wanted to make sure there was always one of them home with the baby because that seemed like what they would do. To have the parent left at home be SO BAD at taking care of their child while alone with them (with 7+ parenting skill no less!) is really disappointing. 

I have only found two solutions to this issue. One is to hire a nanny. The second is to leave one parent home full time (no job) OR move a young adult/adult in as a roommate/household member then designate that person as an adoptive caregiver. 

It doesn’t even help to hire a nanny. I had the parents leave a newborn with a nanny to go to a holiday celebration. I could see that the baby was hungry, but he kept going upstairs and shushing her. 

I know that’s a newborn, but I’ve had the same experience with infants. I can at least cheat the infant’s needs if I need to with UI cheats. Newborns, I just have to hope the incompetent nanny doesn’t get my baby taken away…

Yeah, exactly the same happens to me too. When one sim leaves the lot, and the infant is left with another family member (like mom leaves and the infant is at home with dad), the needs of the infant are terribly low when she returns. Like dad is not able to take care of his kid lol

One option is for all adults to leave the lot so that infant would be forced to be sent to daycare BUT it is definitely not possible if you are following your sim to an active career...

Yeah, it's impossible to leave infants at home with another family member. This is what I am seeing.

Infant 1

Infant 2

This is my household. There are TWO sims at home.

Energy for the infants go up, but everything else is decreasing. I'm really worried on if they will get whisked away because their hunger needs aren't being met despite having adults on the lot to care for them. I really hope this could get fixed because it seems like a bug.

I have a family who are landlords, living in the complex they own. Parent 1 goes across the hall for maintenance and parent 2 and infant are left alone. Parent 1 returns and infant is out of the crib crying and in need of everything, while parent 2 is watching TV. But this is just an example. Infant care is so glitchy. Toddlers are fine, however. You will never find a toddler in the middle of the road 5 blocks from home.

I only have one sim and two babies, at first they went to daycare when he went to his job but then i hired a nanny (doesn't  help when i am not there). I later tried a butler because at least the butler could sleep at my house but it seems i will just have to cheat the infants needs (its okay their dads is a wizard). i guess i don't get to have a butler though. maybe i can just hire a nanny and dismiss them before i go to work?

You might try clicking on a Sim who is still at home and assigning Socialize With the infant instead of the normal Take Care of Self. 

NOTE: I'm playing a 1-Sim household right now, so I might not have the right command names. Also, I have not tested this. It's just a suggestion.

My adult sim left the lot for almost the entire day while a teen was still at home with the younger kids, including an infant and two toddlers. The toddlers were OK when my sim got back home, but the infant's fun, social, hunger and bladder needs were all in the red.