BIRTHDAY CAKES/FAMILY MEALS

Hiii every single time I have my sim make a birthday cake they automatically grab a slice when they are done cooking it. It’s gotten to the point where I have to reset my sim before they have a second to do it 😭 Like **bleep** I just want birthday candles 😭 😭 Is there a way that sims can stop automatically eating the food they cook? Even with family meals too - when i cook a meal my sim grabs a plate before I can think and then when I call to meal, they place the plate they already had down and grab a new one.

The entire eating sessions feel off like i just have my sims eat to get it out of the way. I wish there was a way like in wedding stories where we can call everyone to sit and eat, and like maybe the butler would come and deliver the food/ the parent yk?