Help with close-knit lifestyle / how to ask to be confidant?

Still haven't had any luck with this, I'd love to hear experiences from others too! Especially if you know how to do it but sharing your frustration will do as well! :D

Alrighty, still no luck so maybe I should just create a bug report since it's apparently actually missing from the game? I just thought to wait out if someone has seen it in their game.

edit: I think it's kinda funny that when I try googling how to do this, I get my own forum post asking about it in the results.. :D

@siirysiir   I finally saw the option to ask to be confidant in my game tonight.  It is under friendly interactions.  Not sure if it played a part in the option appearing but my sim was in a confident mood.

@dolldrms1 WOW thank you so much for posting this! I honestly thought that it's really missing from the game bc I've tried so long to get that and somehow the whole internet is completely devoid of the information if someone has really even seen this. Might I ask what was the relationship between these sims? Like approximately how many per cent friendly? Besties or no? Romantic?

EDIT: haha silly me, it's in the image but were they best friends and were they dating/married?

The tricky part with these is that since there is no info given abt how to _precisely_ do it (the description is pretty vague in the lifestyle tab) we can't really be sure if being confident had anything to do with triggering that social interaction option. :D But I will try again (when I get to that household), I had already lost hope so THANK YOU!

@siirysiir

The sims in the pic are married and have an adopted child. I don't recall whether or not they are BFFs and am not playing that household at the moment. IIRC, both of the sims were in a confident mood when the option appeared but since this was the first time I've seen the option appear, I'm not positive what triggered it. I simply had them chatting late night after a club meeting at the house.

It's questions like this that make me miss the old Prima game guides. There was so much useful info in them and I always bought them, lol. At any rate, I'll post again if I encounter the option without both sims being "confident". Meanwhile, you can try getting both sims in confident moods to see if the option appears for you. Glad I can offer you something to try! 🙂

My male sim has a relationship with a female NPC sim and they are maxed out on friendship and romance. Both have happy closer memories and deeply connected sentiments. And when he asked her to be his confidant she rejected him and went home. And it took their friendship down 10 points it looks like. Which is a bummer because Love Day was on Friday according to my game. And since it was Wednesday on my game, I had planned on asking her to marry my sim on that Friday (Love Day). But since she rejected my "be my confidant request" I don't want my sim to marry her now.

My male sim had just received the Indoorsy Lifestyle a few days ago and been maintaining it. Both sim characters where "Deeply Connected & Closer Happy Memories" and my male sim had the additional smitten sentiment toward the female NPC sim. My guess for you is keep maintaining the Indoorsy lifestyle, I had it for 3 days or so and I saw it on the romance tab while talking to the female NPC sim. By definition I know what the word means and I thought that it would increase their relationship with each other if I clicked on it and asked her to be my confidant. But she rejected and went home.

It was an option that showed up in conversation for me, when I had become Best Friend with someone. I am not sure how it would show up otherwise. I hope this helps you

If you have the Close Knit lifestyle, then the interaction seems to come up when a conversation is sufficiently friendly - I don't know if it's "pleasant conversation" or higher.  

Relationship level with the target Sim governs whether its a gain or a loss to relationship (green bar) - I have seen it go both ways. 

It is tricky to unlock - not quite a hidden interaction, but definitely the sort of thing your Sims need to work up to in order to have it succeed. 

Limited experience, because it's only come up in one of my saves, but to my best understanding, that's how it works.

I had a similar result when the wife (close knit) asked her husband (people person). He got a hurt sentiment and it really brought their friendship down.

Since they had full friendship, I'm assuming he didn't like being asked because of his people person lifestyle?

I asked about three times and they all resulted in a negative interaction. Asking to be a confidant didn't go away for me, but it could be because their friendship was still "high" enough to just be friends. After all, I didn't want them to hate each other!

Any ideas on how this actually work? I have tried it dozens of times, always with 100% friendship, positive emotions, and being best friends. I have the interaction in the pie menu, so no problem unlocking the option. But i have tried with different sims, in different saves and I have literally NEVER seen a positive result, i have never seen the other sim saying yes when i ask to be confident. They always get mad at my sim and friendship goes down. Am i missing something? Is there any requisite for this to work or is it just completely bugged? Thank you for any insight or suggestion, like i said i have tried it dozens of times and it never worked. 

Thank you.