Yeah, I was thinking of making a poll like this as well, so kudos! I think it'll be helpful for the Gurus, who actually seem to be requesting feedback on this feature and its current state. I like the concept of this feature, but it's definitely really excessive in its current state. I think Sim reactions to these calls should be scaled depending on how well they knew the deceased. I can see them being sad over friends, good friends, best friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, spouses, etc, but not over someone that they only said hi to once, and definitely not over someone that they dislike or even hate.
And toddlers shouldn't be getting these calls either. They aren't supposed to have phones, so that shouldn't even be possible!