Dream Date sims, traits that are deal-breakers

The ones I avoid the most are Slob and Evil, unless it fits into the theme of the story I'm playing.

@DevilNDisguise I kept a sim around that had The hates children trait, but he ended up being a great father. I think they hate other people’s kids, or maybe it was just him, Idk But I love your rationale for changing traits. I’ve done this as well, but changing them in CAS doesn’t work for some of the worst ones, that’s a well documented bug

@annaliese39
You make a lot of good points about how so called “bad” traits can make a couple work together. They can make for very interesting story telling too. And yes, if a story seems to make a sim a better person, then I think the new tendencies of the sim in question should be changed. I mean, it happens in real life...

@mika - I agree, the unflirty trait is quite annoying. Although having your sims flirt with Everyone at a get together, right in front of their significant other, is almost worth them having unflirty. I find the constant flirting really unrealistic and annoying. I don’t see people act like that in real life - at least not when their spouse or partner is with them

@Arialisims Is it you yourself that’s yelling at them? ? Or the sim you’re playing? I do not like the gloomy trait, but lazy is ok with me, I find it to be pretty realistic, lol

@Dollyllama108 Thank you for you thoughts on erratic sims. I agree with you, that’s really no laughing matter. I don’t make sims have it, and often delete townie sims who do. And that’s super funny about how your sims always choose people who have it ?

As for myself- Evil is a no-go. Erratic because of the mental illness issue. Gloomy is not fun, I try to avoid it. And non-commital is disheartening, because sometimes you can see how very much in love the sims are, and suddenly one is tense because they are stressed from being stuck in a relationship- yeah, whatever. Hates Children I’ll usually avoid, unless it’s in a male elder - that seems kinda realistic to me. Mean is also not great. When mean interactions are the first things that pop up you have to cycle through to find decent ones instead- too much work, lmao

I think it’s very interesting to hear what traits bother you guys, and the reasons! I actually like bro, it’s like the nice trait that’s more interesting, and has more hands-on interactions. I think there are not nearly enough hands-on things in the game. I really don’t mind jealous, it makes a relationship Very intense, and makes for great storylines, hot-headed can be fun, because it can be interesting to see what other sims can do to calm them down- lots of woohooing can be instigated by a sim who doesn’t want their loved one to be mad for no reason, lol. I’ve never seen a kleptomaniac sim steal something, so I think I’m doing something wrong with them. Childish and loves dogs/cats doesn’t really bother me. I have one guy who absolutely loves dogs and enthuses about them all the time, but I never let him get one, and he’s fine without one.

The thing I really really dislike is when one of them turn out to be a “furry” Yuck- instant deletion from my game.

"AlwaysAsking;c-17015305" wrote:
@DevilNDisguise I kept a sim around that had The hates children trait, but he ended up being a great father. I think they hate other people’s kids, or maybe it was just him, Idk But I love your rationale for changing traits. I’ve done this as well, but changing them in CAS doesn’t work for some of the worst ones, that’s a well documented bug

Same with my Sims and the Hates Children trait. I’ve ended up with some really great parents, while others didn’t have a relationship with them whatsoever. Very hit or miss for me.
And I agree, that bug is a pain. I use the add/remove trait cheat to avoid it.

@AlwaysAsking Its me pretending to be my sim...I think lol

jealous, gloomy, Insider, Klepto, hot headed, Insane, Unflirty, Noncommittal, hates children, Evil - and Mean -

I avoid these Sims like a plague for my Sims. Not for dates, marriage or even friendships. If a sim has any of these traits they need to leave - forever more - well at least my Sims house.

The always usual trait dealbreaker that I would rarely ever accept on a prospective date sim will have to be Mean, because it almost always leads to some nasty exchange of words somewhere down the line. If I wanted to experience verbal abuse by a potential love interest of my sim, I can go find that in the real world.

Jealous would be a close second though, followed by Slob in 3rd.

"DevilNDisguise;c-17015323" wrote:

Same with my Sims and the Hates Children trait. I’ve ended up with some really great parents, while others didn’t have a relationship with them whatsoever. Very hit or miss for me.
And I agree, that bug is a pain. I use the add/remove trait cheat to avoid it.

Oh! Does that actually work? I've heard it said that using that, and the retraiting elixir haven't worked either!! Would you mind telling me the cheat? Or telling me where I can find it?
& Thanks for mentioning it!!

"AlwaysAsking;c-17015452" wrote:

"DevilNDisguise;c-17015323" wrote:

Same with my Sims and the Hates Children trait. I’ve ended up with some really great parents, while others didn’t have a relationship with them whatsoever. Very hit or miss for me.
And I agree, that bug is a pain. I use the add/remove trait cheat to avoid it.

Oh! Does that actually work? I've heard it said that using that, and the retraiting elixir haven't worked either!! Would you mind telling me the cheat? Or telling me where I can find it?
& Thanks for mentioning it!!

@AlwaysAsking

No problem! It’s quite handy.

I’ve found that it works perfectly. Since using the cheat, I haven’t had an issue with the moodlets reappearing for traits my Sims no longer have.
To get rid of the moodlets your Sims still experience, though, you do have to give them that specific trait again (through CAS or through cheats; that part doesn’t matter) and then cheat it off of them. That will take care of the moodlets and should assure they will stay away. :)

These are the cheats:

To remove a trait: traits.remove_trait traitname

To add a trait: traits.equip_trait traitname

No spaces in between trait names, either.

"DevilNDisguise;c-17015605" wrote:

@AlwaysAsking

No problem! It’s quite handy.

I’ve found that it works perfectly. Since using the cheat, I haven’t had an issue with the moodlets reappearing for traits my Sims no longer have.
To get rid of the moodlets your Sims still experience, though, you do have to give them that specific trait again (through CAS or through cheats; that part doesn’t matter) and then cheat it off of them. That will take care of the moodlets and should assure they will stay away. :)

These are the cheats:

To remove a trait: traits.remove_trait traitname

To add a trait: traits.equip_trait traitname

No spaces in between trait names, either.

@DevilNDisguise

Thank you Ever so much!! I have one particular couple that have that stupid non committal thing going, and it's just So inappropriate for the relationship they have! LOL, I'm so excited :smiley:

There are other sims that I want to change also, but this one couple in particular is driving me up the wall.

The most unattractive sims are the ones who ignore me for their phone or my own computer... Oh, wait...

I don't like playing romantically, so when I decide for whatever reason that my currently played sim needs a partner, I don't want it to take any more time than necessary. That's why I tend to avoid traits that make dating even more of a chore than it already is, such as Loner, Unflirty, Mean, Noncommittal, and Hot-Headed. I once tried to date a sim who would constantly reject friendly and romantic interactions and seem uncomfortable despite high relationship bars - turned out he was a loner, so I dumped him. Yeah, let's not do that again any time soon.

My own simself is a tough nut to crack, being both unflirty and a loner. If I ever feel like hooking myself up with someone, that's going to be a challenge, and the only time I'll ever be open to it.