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7 years ago

How Long Do You Wait Until You Have Your Sim Just Walk Away?

Some of you have been kind enough to read my threads regarding my Global Superstar, Erik Cantrell. For some reason his latest exploits have been posted down in the Creative Corner portion of this forum, but that's okay.

I'll summarize: I had the couple call it quits since Leila just couldn't control her emotions. While she doesn't have the jealousy trait, she does have the Romantic Aspiration, but I chose Soul Mate for her. Erik was just not having any luck on the dating scene. He did meet the woman his sister hooked him up with, but Alyse Bennett is self-absorbed and a snob. Suffice it to say, Erik began to realize Leila's fits at least meant she cared. He developed a strategy to make sure he focuses more of his attention on her when they're out and about and while he wouldn't totally ignore his fans, he would remember just whom he was out with. Surprisingly, it took only a couple of interactions and they both had a full pink bar. Guess these two Sims are really into each other. They quickly went from him asking her to be his girlfriend to him asking he to marry him, a second time.

To ensure more one on one time together, I had him invite her to move into his sister's home, too. No, they're not sleeping together, yet. I do have to wonder if that would change things somehow. I fear for Leila, that could make his reactions to his fans far worse, come to reflect on it. :open_mouth:

However, Erik was invited out to a bar for Ghost Night, so of course he took his newly betrothed with him. He did his best to calm her emotions when a couple of female fans poured it on really thick and Erik involuntarily reacted to the heavy flirtation. Mind you, he didn't kiss anyone, beyond Leila, but he got that mushy, weak-kneed reaction about him. Leila threw yet another fit. This time she didn't cry, at least. Erik worked on sharing her emotional load, tried to calm her down. At the end of the outing, they went back home. Leila is still aggravated with Erik. I mean, she is really Very Angry with him. She tried to talk to his sister and Brianna ended up being embarrassed by the awkward conversation. Leila did ask Brianna what she thought of Erik, and being very close to her brother (out of her four brother's he's her favorite) she merely stated she liked Erik and that he was cool. So, I had Brianna ask Leila about Erik. Sadly, I didn't get to see what she said, had another pop-up message in my game and couldn't find her response in the drop down menu. It was after that that Brianna got all humiliated, though.

Erik has tried to talk to Leila and she won't have anything from him. She walked downstairs and ended up in the small home Theater, just standing there being all angry. Erik stayed upstairs for a bit to help his sister by cleaning up the mess his toddler nephew made on the floor while the two female Sims were chatting.

Now, Erik gets a "break up" on the first level of interactions when I have him click on Leila. At one point at the bar, he had a heart with a negative or minus sign beside it floating above his head. This does not bode well.

I am in a total quandary over this. They reunited so quickly and for a heartbeat, at least, seemed happy. She really seemed to have calmed down. Now, she thinks she got a flirty spouse and is wondering how long it's been going on behind her back. Spouse, really? They haven't yet tied the knot.

How long do you wait before you have your Sim just walk away?

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  • It depends on the situation, but here at least for a few days. Is it possible that the Relationships Panel may be suffering from a glitch? Ever since the Get Famous EP, some of my Sims' relationships tend to decay far more quickly (and without the MCCC Mod included). I don't know what happens with enemies and such, but I've also noticed that some NCPs tend to start fights far more often. And it's not even Prank Day or the occasional Neighborhood Brawl, hahaha!
  • "GalacticGal;d-952932" wrote:
    Some of you have been kind enough to read my threads regarding my Global Superstar, Erik Cantrell. For some reason his latest exploits have been posted down in the Creative Corner portion of this forum, but that's okay.

    I'll summarize: I had the couple call it quits since Leila just couldn't control her emotions. While she doesn't have the jealousy trait, she does have the Romantic Aspiration, but I chose Soul Mate for her. Erik was just not having any luck on the dating scene. He did meet the woman his sister hooked him up with, but Alyse Bennett is self-absorbed and a snob. Suffice it to say, Erik began to realize Leila's fits at least meant she cared. He developed a strategy to make sure he focuses more of his attention on her when they're out and about and while he wouldn't totally ignore his fans, he would remember just whom he was out with. Surprisingly, it took only a couple of interactions and they both had a full pink bar. Guess these two Sims are really into each other. They quickly went from him asking her to be his girlfriend to him asking he to marry him, a second time.

    To ensure more one on one time together, I had him invite her to move into his sister's home, too. No, they're not sleeping together, yet. I do have to wonder if that would change things somehow. I fear for Leila, that could make his reactions to his fans far worse, come to reflect on it. :open_mouth:

    However, Erik was invited out to a bar for Ghost Night, so of course he took his newly betrothed with him. He did his best to calm her emotions when a couple of female fans poured it on really thick and Erik involuntarily reacted to the heavy flirtation. Mind you, he didn't kiss anyone, beyond Leila, but he got that mushy, weak-kneed reaction about him. Leila threw yet another fit. This time she didn't cry, at least. Erik worked on sharing her emotional load, tried to calm her down. At the end of the outing, they went back home. Leila is still aggravated with Erik. I mean, she is really Very Angry with him. She tried to talk to his sister and Brianna ended up being embarrassed by the awkward conversation. Leila did ask Brianna what she thought of Erik, and being very close to her brother (out of her four brother's he's her favorite) she merely stated she liked Erik and that he was cool. So, I had Brianna ask Leila about Erik. Sadly, I didn't get to see what she said, had another pop-up message in my game and couldn't find her response in the drop down menu. It was after that that Brianna got all humiliated, though.

    Erik has tried to talk to Leila and she won't have anything from him. She walked downstairs and ended up in the small home Theater, just standing there being all angry. Erik stayed upstairs for a bit to help his sister by cleaning up the mess his toddler nephew made on the floor while the two female Sims were chatting.

    Now, Erik gets a "break up" on the first level of interactions when I have him click on Leila. At one point at the bar, he had a heart with a negative or minus sign beside it floating above his head. This does not bode well.

    I am in a total quandary over this. They reunited so quickly and for a heartbeat, at least, seemed happy. She really seemed to have calmed down. Now, she thinks she got a flirty spouse and is wondering how long it's been going on behind her back. Spouse, really? They haven't yet tied the knot.

    How long do you wait before you have your Sim just walk away?



    I understand, And I must say she will never let him live a happy life. I think some of the jealous sims have a bug.

    I think its a serious problem with the jealousy trait in sims 4, I had a jealous female sim that would go nuts with jealousy if her husband and father of her twin toddlers if he even picks one up or hugs them.

    So It was no way that family could stay together, I did think maybe I should just let her go and get him a different wife. But then I thought of her children she was a good mom on her own and her toddlers loved her, it's just when the father would interact with one of the toddlers, she would go nuts on him in a jealous rage. So yes this was every day all day on and off.

    I had no choice but to use a cheat code to change her traits, now they are a happy family.
  • I just read your story and that's pretty awesome. When I have these things happen with my sims and I want to protect them and have them find happiness. It's funny I want to see the drama around my played sims but not have it happen as much too them. It would be hard for me to continue to see this in my game play even though reading it .. it's very dramatic and involved (and fun) if that makes sense.
    For me I'd just have to chose.. as in they couldn't go out in public together or if they did I'd police it tightly to steer them away from problems. It can be fun for awhile to plan out strategy ... but it can also get old. When working it from that angle... if it didn't work I'd have to give up on it.
    I'm not fond of jealousy in my played families for the most part... it's fun to watch it happen to other sims outside of my played families though so I don't like to disable it in the game with mods.
    I'd consider getting them both the player trait or even cheating it in, or rolling with the drama. You did say that Leila's fits meant she cared (not that I would go for that reasoning personally but our characters aren't us). I have read there might be something wrong with the player trait though... not that I've tested it out for awhile.
  • @Hermitgirl thank you for taking the time to read my little story. I created five random female Sims, using dice to set their traits and aspirations so they would all be different and placed them in different worlds in my game save. Erik has met at least three of them now, but he met Leila first and took quite a shine to her. I think I now know what it is. She's got the Romance aspiration, to which I selected soulmate. The attending trait for that is alluring. I think I'm going to delay the nuptials for a bit to see what happens. I don't know if you've read the fourth installment of this little saga unfolding in my game, but it's entitled "If At First You Don't Succeed …" It got placed down in the Creative Corner section under Legacies and stories. I'm unsure why the other three haven't been moved there, but perhaps they will eventually.
  • "Stormsview;c-16876119" wrote:
    "GalacticGal;d-952932" wrote:
    Some of you have been kind enough to read my threads regarding my Global Superstar, Erik Cantrell. For some reason his latest exploits have been posted down in the Creative Corner portion of this forum, but that's okay.

    I'll summarize: I had the couple call it quits since Leila just couldn't control her emotions. While she doesn't have the jealousy trait, she does have the Romantic Aspiration, but I chose Soul Mate for her. Erik was just not having any luck on the dating scene. He did meet the woman his sister hooked him up with, but Alyse Bennett is self-absorbed and a snob. Suffice it to say, Erik began to realize Leila's fits at least meant she cared. He developed a strategy to make sure he focuses more of his attention on her when they're out and about and while he wouldn't totally ignore his fans, he would remember just whom he was out with. Surprisingly, it took only a couple of interactions and they both had a full pink bar. Guess these two Sims are really into each other. They quickly went from him asking her to be his girlfriend to him asking he to marry him, a second time.

    To ensure more one on one time together, I had him invite her to move into his sister's home, too. No, they're not sleeping together, yet. I do have to wonder if that would change things somehow. I fear for Leila, that could make his reactions to his fans far worse, come to reflect on it. :open_mouth:

    However, Erik was invited out to a bar for Ghost Night, so of course he took his newly betrothed with him. He did his best to calm her emotions when a couple of female fans poured it on really thick and Erik involuntarily reacted to the heavy flirtation. Mind you, he didn't kiss anyone, beyond Leila, but he got that mushy, weak-kneed reaction about him. Leila threw yet another fit. This time she didn't cry, at least. Erik worked on sharing her emotional load, tried to calm her down. At the end of the outing, they went back home. Leila is still aggravated with Erik. I mean, she is really Very Angry with him. She tried to talk to his sister and Brianna ended up being embarrassed by the awkward conversation. Leila did ask Brianna what she thought of Erik, and being very close to her brother (out of her four brother's he's her favorite) she merely stated she liked Erik and that he was cool. So, I had Brianna ask Leila about Erik. Sadly, I didn't get to see what she said, had another pop-up message in my game and couldn't find her response in the drop down menu. It was after that that Brianna got all humiliated, though.

    Erik has tried to talk to Leila and she won't have anything from him. She walked downstairs and ended up in the small home Theater, just standing there being all angry. Erik stayed upstairs for a bit to help his sister by cleaning up the mess his toddler nephew made on the floor while the two female Sims were chatting.

    Now, Erik gets a "break up" on the first level of interactions when I have him click on Leila. At one point at the bar, he had a heart with a negative or minus sign beside it floating above his head. This does not bode well.

    I am in a total quandary over this. They reunited so quickly and for a heartbeat, at least, seemed happy. She really seemed to have calmed down. Now, she thinks she got a flirty spouse and is wondering how long it's been going on behind her back. Spouse, really? They haven't yet tied the knot.

    How long do you wait before you have your Sim just walk away?



    I understand, And I must say she will never let him live a happy life. I think some of the jealous sims have a bug.

    I think its a serious problem with the jealousy trait in sims 4, I had a jealous female sim that would go nuts with jealousy if her husband and father of her twin toddlers if he even picks one up or hugs them.

    So It was no way that family could stay together, I did think maybe I should just let her go and get him a different wife. But then I thought of her children she was a good mom on her own and her toddlers loved her, it's just when the father would interact with one of the toddlers, she would go nuts on him in a jealous rage. So yes this was every day all day on and off.

    I had no choice but to use a cheat code to change her traits, now they are a happy family.


    Only problem with your suggestion is she doesn't have the jealousy trait. The only thing I can link her behavior to is the Romance Aspiration where she's looking for her Soul Mate. It makes her alluring, so I can see the spell she cast over Erik. LOL I had no idea that aspiration would cause jealousy, though. :open_mouth: I do know that Alyse Bennett is a bit of a cold fish in regard to the ardor of his fans. I suppose I can just hang in there hoping he'll meet the other two of the five different females I created and dropped into the save in different worlds, just in case one of those would make a better choice for him. Oh, well. I haven't played since Friday. It's high time I go check on Erik and Leila. Again, thank you for your response.

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