How many Turn-on/offs works best?

I forget how many I put, I think it was one good and bad of each and don’t find it too intrusive.

But i would say you need to be careful with the conversation ones.  When you say turned off by flirting etc, any flirt interaction goes negatively.  I’ve had sims lose chemistry very quickly by gift giving etc, and so you really need to watch what interactions you use if you pick those as turnoffs.  

You can have up to 50 of each (Prefs & TOTOs), not 50 altogether.

Likes/Dislikes on can be gained through gameplay (Hobbies, Music, Characteristics and Conversation can anyway), so I like to give/randomise a few (1-3 in each category) and leave space for character development via gameplay. I play Mixed Music station to develop music taste in game rather than adding in CAS unless it's a big part of their character (such as a clubber loving DJ Music).

TOTOs can only be added to played sims manually. You could do this all at once, or add to to them/remove them as you play. With only a few you will have Neutral attraction to most sims, and Good/Bad with a few, so the dating pool will be wide.

I would start out with "dealbreaker" TOTOs that your sim needs in their partner. Some starting TOTOs would be things like working hours (Freelancer vs. Workaholic etc) or skills that compliment traits/prefs (a Foodie that Dislikes Cooking really wants a partner who cooks).  As you date various sims you can add Turn-Ons that you liked about that sim (they were Funny!) and Turn-Offs that you didn't (the last 2 dates went horribly, and they were both Cerebral sims). This mirrors how we figure out what we want IRL. More TOTOs will narrow the field, but you can always reassess if you go too far and remove an ick/boon from your list if you decide you can live with(out) it.

Also remember that sims' skills increase with time and traits can be gained and swapped out, so partners may lose/gain Attraction to your sim as you live your lives and grow together/apart, the same way platonic Compatibility can also change as traits are revealed.

I usually have more turn ons then turn-offs.

I try to let my sims come up with their own turn offs.

With matchmaking I'll add turn offs and turn ons that are directed towards the sims I'm trying to set up.

I've found out if you give them turn ons and turn offs but no likes or dislikes with them their not attracted to anyone.

EmmaVane wrote:

With only a few you will have Neutral attraction to most sims, and Good/Bad with a few, so the dating pool will be wide.

Is it attraction if it's neutral? I imagine for dating they would have to have positive attraction, because Neutral is really no attraction. Bad attraction is basically turn offs.

I think Neutral is the equivalent of BG attraction and difficulty, with (Very) Unattracted being (much) harder and (Very) Attracted being (much) easier to romance sims.

>>I try to let my sims come up with their own turn offs.

Will there be a pop-up suggesting new toto's? Like the game will suggest likes/dislikes?

Thanks for all the feedback, much appreciated!

I finally bought Lovestruck, and seeing how many totos premade sims have was a huge surprise. Some actually had TONS. I don't know how the game calculates, but with 12 turn-ons and 8 turn-offs I reckon it will be quite hard finding a good match...?

Anyway, my original idea of checking just once per category fell flat. It's obviously too few. So I'll double it :)  In my game a teenager will select one turn on or off per category. I don't care much about clothes colors and clothing styles, but I guess a teen might. Then, on YA birthday they will check one more turn on/off per category. The goal will be that there should then be the same amount of ons and offs (not written in stone, though). I'll maybe allow single sims to add another set or adjust the existing on their A birthday. Basically, most of my sims will have 1 turn on and 1 turn off in each category.

PS: I find the hair color category to be real tricky. So many unnatural colors. What is the point of having green hair as a turn-off, and pink as a turn-on? And the natural colors is not very interesting either, other categories will be more important. At least he grey hair color can indicate something age related.

Simmerville wrote:

PS: I find the hair color category to be real tricky. So many unnatural colors. What is the point of having green hair as a turn-off, and pink as a turn-on? And the natural colors is not very interesting either, other categories will be more important. At least he grey hair color can indicate something age related.

I suppose you could add green hair as turn off if they don't like green colour? And you could add pink hair turn on if they like pink? Or maybe you have a specific sim in mind that has pink hair and you want them to fall in love, so you add pink hair as turn on. 

Yes, and those colors are available as hair colors. It just looks overwhelming that so many hair colors that max 1 resident will have. Feels like a wasted turn on/off, but i know, I can just ignore this option. It feels meaningless choosing any hair color, so many of my sims will want a partner with a parents' hair color, LOL.