For my kids, responsibility and manners are maxed. But it's not easy to increase emotional control and Empathy. I couldn't tell them eating dirt is fun. Go ahead..like this. Also I always do to my kid in real life as well. Is there any tip for increasing these 2 with manner and responsibility? Thanks.

I find the easiest way to gain empathy is by volunteering with the family or playing with the doctor set. I believe emotional control is gained when the child writes in a journal (you can purchase the journal via the bookcase), plays an instrument or goes jogging, so you may have to wait until they age to teen to gain emotional control. Also, if the child is trolling the forums, get the parent to discipline the child/teen.

I generally don't specifically worry about manners and responsibility because they're both so easy to raise, and the sim's natural behavior (doing homework, clearing dishes) will raise them easily. Emotional control is fairly easy too with a journal or just having them "play with emotion" with a toy or the doll house.I always have the parent pick the choice that will raise empathy with the parenting chance cards (or if the parent sim's parenting skill is high enough, at least the one that won't decrease it) when it comes up. Even if that's not always the most socially acceptable choice. Their manners and responsibility scores will recover faster than their empathy scores.

"Jeansoo;c-17617358" wrote:"DaWaterRat;c-17616834" wrote:I generally don't specifically worry about manners and responsibility because they're both so easy to raise, and the sim's natural behavior (doing homework, clearing dishes) will raise them easily. Emotional control is fairly easy too with a journal or just having them "play with emotion" with a toy or the doll house.I always have the parent pick the choice that will raise empathy with the parenting chance cards (or if the parent sim's parenting skill is high enough, at least the one that won't decrease it) when it comes up. Even if that's not always the most socially acceptable choice. Their manners and responsibility scores will recover faster than their empathy scores.What is parenting chance cards? Oh yea my 2 children recently got 'clingy' trait, how can I get rid of this? I tried many things but doesn't seem to work. When the child/teen asks for advice, and you get the options. Like the eating dirt question - I usually go with the it's fun, because the manners hit can be recovered from faster.Childhood phases you can have the parent talk to the kid about it, which sometimes clears it up. But otherwise they just have to be endured.

Conflict Resolution is an easy one too. Have parent teach to say sorry, you can start this with toddlers. Continue this when toddler becomes a child. Do this a couple times a day, it goes up pretty quick. You can't do this with a teen though.

On the other hand, I try to get them to have negative values, but they always do the opposite.

How to have a child get 3 positive character value traits?

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LoriTSp
Seasoned Veteran
5 years ago
I find the easiest way to gain empathy is by volunteering with the family or playing with the doctor set. I believe emotional control is gained when the child writes in a journal (you can purchase the journal via the bookcase), plays an instrument or goes jogging, so you may have to wait until they age to teen to gain emotional control. Also, if the child is trolling the forums, get the parent to discipline the child/teen.
DaWaterRat
Seasoned Ace
5 years ago
I generally don't specifically worry about manners and responsibility because they're both so easy to raise, and the sim's natural behavior (doing homework, clearing dishes) will raise them easily. Emotional control is fairly easy too with a journal or just having them "play with emotion" with a toy or the doll house.

I always have the parent pick the choice that will raise empathy with the parenting chance cards (or if the parent sim's parenting skill is high enough, at least the one that won't decrease it) when it comes up. Even if that's not always the most socially acceptable choice. Their manners and responsibility scores will recover faster than their empathy scores.
aodoherty
Seasoned Ace
5 years ago
"LoriTSp;c-17616742" wrote:
I find the easiest way to gain empathy is by volunteering with the family or playing with the doctor set. I believe emotional control is gained when the child writes in a journal (you can purchase the journal via the bookcase), plays an instrument or goes jogging, so you may have to wait until they age to teen to gain emotional control. Also, if the child is trolling the forums, get the parent to discipline the child/teen.

Lovely!! I didn't know that feature. Thanks a lot.:D
aodoherty
Seasoned Ace
5 years ago
"DaWaterRat;c-17616834" wrote:
I generally don't specifically worry about manners and responsibility because they're both so easy to raise, and the sim's natural behavior (doing homework, clearing dishes) will raise them easily. Emotional control is fairly easy too with a journal or just having them "play with emotion" with a toy or the doll house.

I always have the parent pick the choice that will raise empathy with the parenting chance cards (or if the parent sim's parenting skill is high enough, at least the one that won't decrease it) when it comes up. Even if that's not always the most socially acceptable choice. Their manners and responsibility scores will recover faster than their empathy scores.

What is parenting chance cards? Oh yea my 2 children recently got 'clingy' trait, how can I get rid of this? I tried many things but doesn't seem to work.
DaWaterRat
Seasoned Ace
5 years ago
"Jeansoo;c-17617358" wrote:
"DaWaterRat;c-17616834" wrote:
I generally don't specifically worry about manners and responsibility because they're both so easy to raise, and the sim's natural behavior (doing homework, clearing dishes) will raise them easily. Emotional control is fairly easy too with a journal or just having them "play with emotion" with a toy or the doll house.

I always have the parent pick the choice that will raise empathy with the parenting chance cards (or if the parent sim's parenting skill is high enough, at least the one that won't decrease it) when it comes up. Even if that's not always the most socially acceptable choice. Their manners and responsibility scores will recover faster than their empathy scores.

What is parenting chance cards? Oh yea my 2 children recently got 'clingy' trait, how can I get rid of this? I tried many things but doesn't seem to work.

When the child/teen asks for advice, and you get the options. Like the eating dirt question - I usually go with the it's fun, because the manners hit can be recovered from faster.

Childhood phases you can have the parent talk to the kid about it, which sometimes clears it up. But otherwise they just have to be endured.
aodoherty
Seasoned Ace
5 years ago
"DaWaterRat;c-17617380" wrote:
"Jeansoo;c-17617358" wrote:
"DaWaterRat;c-17616834" wrote:
I generally don't specifically worry about manners and responsibility because they're both so easy to raise, and the sim's natural behavior (doing homework, clearing dishes) will raise them easily. Emotional control is fairly easy too with a journal or just having them "play with emotion" with a toy or the doll house.

I always have the parent pick the choice that will raise empathy with the parenting chance cards (or if the parent sim's parenting skill is high enough, at least the one that won't decrease it) when it comes up. Even if that's not always the most socially acceptable choice. Their manners and responsibility scores will recover faster than their empathy scores.

What is parenting chance cards? Oh yea my 2 children recently got 'clingy' trait, how can I get rid of this? I tried many things but doesn't seem to work.

When the child/teen asks for advice, and you get the options. Like the eating dirt question - I usually go with the it's fun, because the manners hit can be recovered from faster.

Childhood phases you can have the parent talk to the kid about it, which sometimes clears it up. But otherwise they just have to be endured.

Ahh ok thanks very much for the great tip.:)
cornflake89
Rising Ace
5 years ago
Conflict Resolution is an easy one too. Have parent teach to say sorry, you can start this with toddlers. Continue this when toddler becomes a child. Do this a couple times a day, it goes up pretty quick. You can't do this with a teen though.
aodoherty
Seasoned Ace
5 years ago
"cornflake88;c-17617514" wrote:
Conflict Resolution is an easy one too. Have parent teach to say sorry, you can start this with toddlers. Continue this when toddler becomes a child. Do this a couple times a day, it goes up pretty quick. You can't do this with a teen though.

OMG...I didn't know I can't do that with teens. Thanks for the awesome tip! :D Yes my children are still primary students. Thanks!!
x4m1r4
5 years ago
On the other hand, I try to get them to have negative values, but they always do the opposite.
Perthelia
Seasoned Ace
5 years ago
"Jeansoo;c-17617745" wrote:
"cornflake88;c-17617514" wrote:
Conflict Resolution is an easy one too. Have parent teach to say sorry, you can start this with toddlers. Continue this when toddler becomes a child. Do this a couple times a day, it goes up pretty quick. You can't do this with a teen though.

OMG...I didn't know I can't do that with teens. Thanks for the awesome tip! :D Yes my children are still primary students. Thanks!!

To continue raising conflict resolution for teens, you can have the teen select "repair a bad relationship" (I'm sure that's not the correct phrasing but it's obvious if it's available) on other sims.