Kids/teens making friends

For me in ts3 I found that the talk to friends/coworkers option when sims were away at school and work really did not raise the relationships very quickly. If I wanted my sims to actually befriend the people they met in a reasonable amount of time... like before they aged up or died, I had to invite them over to talk. It seems to be about the same for me in ts4.

Social Butterfly is the easiest child aspiration, for me. I just queue up lots of friendly interactions and let them go from there. I've always taken the kids to the park to meet other kids, but since the March patch they sometimes get the option to bring someone home from school.

"Schantal;13539247" wrote:

"luthienrising;13539220" wrote:
Your kids can bring anyone they know to the house to hang out (start at the relationship panel) , and if they socialize at school they will meet other kids.

No there is actually a bug (was never fixed) where if you choose the "meet new friends" tone while your child sim is at school they never meet anyone new. I have had the game since day one and still have not had a child sim meet a friend this way. The only way to do it is to send them to the park, unless you don't have the glitch.

It wasn't a glitch and the ability to meet co-workers and friends at school was introduced in the basement patch.

Everytime I have my teen try to "Make Friends" at high school, she keeps meeting children. Is this a bug?

> @lilybluebell said:
> Everytime I have my teen try to "Make Friends" at high school, she keeps meeting children. Is this a bug?

No, I'm pretty sure teens and kids (correct me if im wrong here) go to the same school so she will meet kids and teens. It's an American thing probably (im british so idk).

I usually send my kids to the park, or to one of the local neighborhood ones. They can meet and chat with other kids there. I also set my parks all to have the teen hangout trait, so I often get teens there too.

You could use the friendlycoworkersandclassmates mod from here
https://www.deichschafblog.de/s4/sonstige-mods/
and maybe on top the morechildrenatparks.

The mod page is bilingual (German/English).

I usually make a kids/teens only club called 'after school club' or something similar, and invite them all to hang out and do it that way.

You should take a peek at your manage households... Are there any kids? I noticed this in my game once. Then I made a few random families with kids and my kid became friends with them through school.

"DanmanNefarius;c-16980036" wrote:
option 1. meet at school, build relations via the chat on the computer, done. if they are friends they often visit your teen after school or call to hang out. option 2. just use the club system to create a teen/kids only club and organize gatherings after school at the chosen hangout spot. i often create a teen "band" together with Sofia Bjergsen and Morgan Fyres and we hang out at the new lounge in Del Sol Valley to play instruments, dance, watch tv and chat up. works like a charm and i even saw them become celebrities on their own in the process which is quite rare for ai controlled premades. random spawned celebrities don't count since they get their celebrity status for free -.- at least the girls in my crew actually worked for it...god i hate random generated sims so much….

I've got to the point where I actively discourage my Sims from meeting anyone outside the family because I hate the constant text messages. However, when I do want a kid to make a friend (usually because I'm planning for the friend to become the eventual spouse), I just have them 'socialise' (or whatever the option is) at school until they meet someone suitable. They can then call each other, but as you mention, chatting on the computer is the fastest way to get the relationship from acquaintance to friend.

One thing I miss from S3 is the ability for Sim kids to hang out after school and do their homework together. It was less boring than doing it with a parent or on their own, and it helped them to make friends and raise their social bar.