My Wedding Probl.... err, stories

It's been a while since my last wedding and while I did have some issues with getting guests seated for example, the aisle and toast worked alright. I didn't use any mods. I think you need to watch the livestream of the pack or some sort of tutorial to see how to set up those. You select the isle from build mode and put it down, be sure it's placed the right way. Where the hearts are is where the sims will stand at the end (please check)! For the toast it helps to have the bowl with a bottle set up somewhere. Sims can only toast when they're standing up - again if I remember right.

It's a very micromanagey wedding exprience and I wish they would have kept the option for simpler wedding. The pack is the very reason why I haven't had a wedding in a while. I get stressed when I think about arranging it.

I don't use any mods for MWS either, but they are out there. I haven't had a big wedding in a while but the only way I've found to make it half way work is to only choose a few of the available interactions. That way you can concentrate on getting them to perform those 2 or 3 instead of like 10, which will probably drive you mad. MWS is very, very broken.

I never focused that much on the weddings of this pack, there's so many other reasons why I still enjoy the pack. But I think many simmers try to put all possible events in to the same wedding. You are much more likely to succeed if you restrict that a bit. I had no trouble when adding just a couple events.

I still like most of the content, especially the dancing floor, food/drink buffets and flowers, t mention a few. Most of those wedding stuff can be used with celebrities and my nobility. For weddings I tend to use pose player (mod) to get the guests locked to their seats during the ceremony ;)

So, I did it recently since I got this pack during the Black Friday sale and had it work although the toast wasn't ideal. I had to go into build mode and add the aisle which I found by searching for a wedding aisle. I then used the aisle to direct sims to sit and wait for the procession. I also had a toast by the Sim's father though I didn't bring all of the other sims there for it. I think there was an option to do that on either the toasting bucket that comes with the pack or by clicking on the wedding aisle.

I did have some lag for the first dance which eventually happened. The awkward part was that while I was setting up the first dance, some random guest made a flirty wave at the groom which pissed off the bride and kind of ruined things. They're either going to have a vow renewal later or split up, I haven't decided. Anyway, I switched to the next song on the stereo and they did start dancing but by that time, the bride hated the groom. Some people would have done the whole thing over, I don't tend to do that so I'll see if they can patch things up or break them up.

Anyway, I learned the mechanics of that type of wedding but I did not bother with the cake yet. I think you can travel to Tartosa for it and go to the cake shop in the town. These sims were in Uni and it was a Sunday before classes so I didn't have time for that. The right thing to do would be to place those items that you need at any wedding venue before the ceremony or use one of the dedicated wedding sites that come with the pack. I was running multiple wedding venues before I got the pack so I just need to update those but I could go into build mode by pausing during the ceremony and I could add what I needed to reach the goals. If you don't want to bother, you can still elope anywhere or at the courthouse in Tartosa. I still have a lot of elopements but I'll use this again for some of the bigger weddings. I also noticed that they added multiple pre-made wedding venues for different cultures or different styles of weddings. Search the library and you can probably add one that has the items you need already to complete the milestones.

I hate MWS-weddings with a passion! I used to enjoy wedding parties, but now I basically only use 'say vows' and then end the entire event as soon as I can as it is more or less unplayable. I have considered the mod that allows you to have base game weddings as an alternative. I don't want to uninstall the pack, because I do like the CAS and BB aspects of it, but the game feature is horribly done.

Mmkay this is kind of long but bear with me I hope my ramblings can help, I'll try and find some picture examples.

I have more love for the pack I have tried it since it came out so I did actually notice a massive difference, I have done a wedding since their patch of it with and without mods. Now yes, while it still seems to be not everyone has bugs to the same severity level for me it helps if I turn off free will and do the main focus of what I choose for events before just letting them hang out or whatever else they might want to be. Also when leading people in events for both the bride and groom it helps to split up the guests into groups, I think that's base game or it may be get together don't remember but it does help a lot to wrangle them. Lastly when going to areas it seems that having only one arch helps, and having different rooms to pull people in so they aren't so distracted is also helpful.

Should nothing work it might help to do a repair of your game.

Going with some of what I said usually you can click on the items, either the table, floor, or the bride and groom might pull up the options and you can call guest to do X or to watch x. You can click on the aisle and send people down which will also force them to collect there if you have a large family and they are taking time to arrive.

Whatever tables you are using for them to eat or a different one up to you have another one with no chairs and put the cake on that then click on it for cutting.

First dance does work but it can be moody, meaning it may work but not as expected.

Sometimes if sims or decoration happen to be in the way you may need to tell them dance more than once just to refresh the queue which may make them go into another room or outside all together if they don't or can't reach the dance floor. Not like they wave at the screen but if sims just won't stay off of it. I believe if you use slow dance with or dance with one of them it should also count as a first dance if the main wedding option is being too difficult. I hope that wasn't a bug but yeah worth a try.

Also when planning the ceremony some items you want to make sure are available, like the party bucket thing, I don't remember the name but it should have bottles coming out of it and sometimes they may not be able to ask for a toast or give it without it I have seen it both ways.

here is a wedding I had somewhat recently it takes me a while to have more but I got the first dance with no issue because I didn't have anyone gather to watch it I built the area around it so they could eat and couldn't bother the dance floor.


This is a slightly older wedding I couldn't get the guests to listen even though I only had two but where the roses are that is an aisle, clicking on that seemed to have forced them to behave. In the second picture, I could only get one guest at a time to stop dancing, so I let them party and again cancelled the first dance and redid it so they made their way outside instead. Yes it was cut short because i didn't originally have music out there but I just brought up the boombox and they were all good with nothing in the way. If I remember right toasting worked fine but I also had that on a separate table away from the cake.


Lastly, going further back, I remember this one again went well because as you can see, small rooms they have to be properly wrangled they didn't have much space to do much else. The second pic is the newer one where I crammed a lot of sims and didn't have enough seats so they sat on the aisle as well. For that one I had a mod to invite anybody and have longer parties, not specifically for weddings but they were updated.



Okay sorry for the long post hopefully someone else will get the pack and need this too but it's just what I've seen, the pack was genuinely really terrible when first came out and I tried anyways. It did not make me give on it and can be worth having depending on what your struggle is, so I hope I helped.

"PriestessDreadful;d-1012271" wrote:
I did a search and could only find really out-of-date discussions regarding the My Wedding Stories pack, and rather than necro-posting, I thought it appropriate to start a new one.

I only bought the pack very recently after hardly playing Sims at all for months.

And I don't seem to be able to get it to work. Like some of the comments that I found in older threads, the guests don't seem to do what I want them to do. The panel at the top left of the screen that explains the activities that you should try to do is handy, but I simply can't work out HOW to do some of those things (like putting in the aisle before you can do the aisle walk etc). Some options didn't even seem to be there, like trying to do a toast.

I could not work out how to get the cake there either. And when I tried to send them to do their first dance, they wouldn't.

For those playing with My Wedding Stories, what hints did you pick up along the way? Did you need any mods to help things run more smoothly (I'd rather avoid that if possible)? And any other comments?

Hi @PriestessDreadful
I only got the pack after the problematic bugs were fixed, so this is my not-buggy experience :)
I like doing weddings with very few traditions. Usually I only have "say vows". And then we may or may not do other stuff during the actual event, if it seems like fun, but I don't have to worry about whether it happens or not.
I LOVE walking down the aisle! I just love it! I always felt like it was missing from basegame weddings.
I have not delved into the other events much at all (bach party, engagement party).

As to your questions:
Aisle, toasting bucket and other options are in build mode
The cake afaik has to be brought in the inventory of one of your played sims. If someone else knows another way feel free to share :) I have never used the cake as one of the official traditions so I may be missing something
First dance: this requires a lot of space, like, a lot. Use the largest of the dance floors. And even then they might still elect to go outside or something to find more free space. If the lot doesn't have much space anywhere the action will just fail
Getting guests to do what you want: these options are available by clicking on the aisle or the wedding arch ("take your seats", "time to eat", "gather for first dance" etc). However, be careful of the premade wedding lots, some of them have multiple aisles or multiple wedding arches and that creates confusion when trying to get the guests to do things. If you have a wedding at one of these lots go through it in build mode first and make sure there's only one aisle and only one arch.

The only bug I'm experiencing is that sims don't show up in the outfits chosen for them in the wedding event planning UI. I'm now in the habit of creating a second formal outfit for wedding wear, and changing them into that outfit when they arrive at the venue, it's pretty easy.

Put the wedding cake in the personal inventory of either the bride or groom (obviously a Sim you are controlling). Don't necessarily put it out before the wedding. I've had the cake stolen on more than one occasion. Not entirely certain it was due to the fact my Sim is a Global Superstar, or not. Make certain that the table set aside for it is a flat table, as opposed to the ones with the nice riser in the center, else the interaction to cut the cake won't work (Learned this the hard way.)

It might be a good idea to turn off autonomy. As for getting them to dance, that's a tough one. I did have success, once, when I had the couple practice the slow dance prior to the wedding. No guarantees, however. Take it nice and slow and don't put too much emphasis on the perfect wedding. Keep your sense of humor. Seldom in RL is any wedding perfect. Roll with the nonsense and have fun.

@mightysprite Thank you for this tip: First dance: this requires a lot of space, like, a lot. Use the largest of the dance floors. And even then they might still elect to go outside or something to find more free space. If the lot doesn't have much space anywhere the action will just fail

I had no idea. Now, I'm wishing I had an upcoming wedding. I just know Erik will ball his eyes out. LOL

"ChampandGirlie;c-18337616" wrote:
The awkward part was that while I was setting up the first dance, some random guest made a flirty wave at the groom which ????? off the bride and kind of ruined things. They're either going to have a vow renewal later or split up, I haven't decided. Anyway, I switched to the next song on the stereo and they did start dancing but by that time, the bride hated the groom.

Something similar happened in my wedding :D and I thought "I bet the pack throws that in there on purpose, just to make things interesting!"