The independent trait is good, but to keep relationship bars high you need to ask the toddler to play or bath. you can't just click on the bath and choose Give Jenny a bath. you have to ask her if she wants one. and playing with her first and then asking makes for less tantrums. they will have more tantrums if you don't ask and keep that relationship bar up. also no high chair, I only put them in my commercial places, in case I want to bring a toddler along. because parents are always putting them in and taking them out.