Spirit fading - where is resting place?

From: "Culling, Relationship Culling & Decay: Current Status"
https://forums.thesims.com/en_US/discussion/comment/15366827/#Comment_15366827

Housed Sims will generate tombstones upon their death, including when you are not on the lot when they die. Tombstones are not generated for Sims that died before the November 7, 2017 patch.
Ghosts have a culling timer, which is set on death to 90 days. When that has counted down to 14 days, you will be notified that that Ghost is nearing the end of availability. At this point, tombstones get the interaction 'Strengthen Connection to the Physical World,' which resets the culling timer for that Ghost back to 90 days.

In my experience, I found three tombstones on a park lot in the snow (the Sims froze to death). I had visited the park a couple times but did not witness the deaths of the Sims (I think that if they had died while I was there, the camera would have panned to them). So to my knowledge, Sims' tombstones spawn where they died (even if you weren't there). Hope this is helpful!!

I started the Rags to Riches Challenge in December and have played my founders until they died, so there are two gravestones in the backyard. I moved their oldest grandchild out of the house (playing her as my main household) but now that her own parents are elders, I may switch back to the main house so I can also get her brother ready for his own birthday.

I have a graveyard in the largest plot in Magnolia Promenade where i put my "family" tomb stones.
So unless you have made your own graveyard and managed to keep the urns as sims die, you won't be able to save them unfortunately.

"Bloosmoo;c-16915948" wrote:

"GalacticGal;c-16915216" wrote:

"Bagoas77;c-16915020" wrote:
Is there still not a graveyard or mausoleum for ts4? I thought that one would've been added by now...

I read that wrong at first. The line reminded me of one Ebenezer Scrooge uses when turning down a charity: "Are there not Work Houses?", or words to that effect

@GalacticGal OMGosh that's amazing! Why didn't I think of adding a workhouse before! Right that's it workhouse, and asylum in Windenberg in what will be my misery save muhahahaha! Thank you so much for the inspiration <3

LOL, glad I could 'help'. Sadly, I had a few ancestors that ended up in Work houses. She was an unwed mother, 'wrong side of the blanket', as it was said, back then. He's my third great-grandfather, but managed to do okay in the long run, despite being raised in said work house. Yikes. Makes me understand the story of Scrooge so much more clearly in the end.

"Bloosmoo;c-16915998" wrote:
A lot of my family wound up in a workhouse too , so I can only empathize. Our ancestors had it rough that's for sure. :( Awful places really but so much potential for gameplay. Sadly I know people who are still of the Scrooge mentality, but A Christmas Carol is still one of my favourite films to watch. I could always do a haunted workhouse, my brain is literally on overload with this :D

The ancestors that I wrote of were living in England, too. Also, since I do have the written version of Charles Dicken's 'A Christmas Carol', I can say that just about every film rendition I've seen remain very true to the original work. Nobody can improve on such a great story. ;)

Hey folks, quick reminder to please try and stay focused on the topic at hand. :smile:

Sometimes I've been able to find a resting place of a sim I wasn't actually playing, but a lot of times I can't. In my experience, it helps if you have a little "graveyard" on the home lot--so, if you have pets, and they die, put the little graves in a little fenced area outside. Then, when I come back to the household after playing another one and a sim has passed away in the meantime, I've found the grave will have popped up next to the other ones. And a couple times I have found them just randomly around or in the house somewhere. But a lot of the time, if it's not readily apparent where it is, I'm never able to find it--there's just too many places to look. I definitely agree that it'd be nice if there was a an easier way--if we could request urns, or if they just showed up in the household inventory, or something.

"FanPhoria;c-16926600" wrote:
Sometimes I've been able to find a resting place of a sim I wasn't actually playing, but a lot of times I can't. In my experience, it helps if you have a little "graveyard" on the home lot--so, if you have pets, and they die, put the little graves in a little fenced area outside. Then, when I come back to the household after playing another one and a sim has passed away in the meantime, I've found the grave will have popped up next to the other ones. And a couple times I have found them just randomly around or in the house somewhere. But a lot of the time, if it's not readily apparent where it is, I'm never able to find it--there's just too many places to look. I definitely agree that it'd be nice if there was a an easier way--if we could request urns, or if they just showed up in the household inventory, or something.

I like to keep a little family graveyard for my main family, and a separate one in a park for other sims. The ghosts haunt the lot that the grave is on, so if you have a bunch of graves with ghosts that still have a connection to the physical world, that makes for an awful lot of ghosts.


I do wish that there were a way to find the urns of unplayed sims, or at least those of unplayed sims within my favorited households. When I lose interest in particular moved-out family members, I set those households as unplayed, but keep them in my favorited households, so they can go about their sim lives (with the help of MCCC.) I'd really like to be able to keep those graves on the ancestral lot.