romance social interaction not showing up

PLEASE PLEASE HELP!!!

I have two sims, both young adults. I have spent HOURS searching how to fix the missing romance interaction. It has never showed up. EVER. I used the relationship cheap and they are currently "soulmates" and the pink bar is completely full, but when i go to converse with either sim, there are only friendly, funny, and rude interactions available. Its also always the same options almost every time. Like i still see get to know as if they are acquantices. They live in the same household and can sleep in the same bed.

I have repaired the game, no mods, and this is my first world i made. The female sim is my OG sim and ive never been able to flirt or have a romantic option with her.

I am wondering if it has something to do with her, maybe a trait or something hidden?

I have gone through literally everything and researched and tried all the answers. The only thing i think that would work is if someone could look at my game info and see the sim info?

I saw someone do that in an answer forum back in October 2018.

I have attached some screenshots as well.

Please help me!

THANK YOUUU

CGrant56
4 years ago
@sammiesmith360
Here's a couple of things you can try.
Travel away from the home lot and see what happens.
Take a look in CAS to see if there is any family type relationship - sister, brother or any relationship that would prevent the sims from being romantic with each other. Use the CAS.fulleditmode cheat before you take them to CAS. Enter the cheat at the map then take them to CAS from Manage Households. That way, if you find a relationship, you can then change it. If you can't fix it that way, then before you exit CAS, save the household to your library. Then you have some options. First, delete the household from Manage Households after you've saved them to your library. To break the connection between them, place the household to a lot from your library, then go to CAS and delete one of them. Then save that single sim household to your library. Then load the household again into a different lot and delete the other one. Save that single sim household to your library. Then, load them one at the time into a lot to get them back together again. Separating them like that in your library should break any family or other connections between them when they are reloaded. Then it's just a matter of getting them back in their jobs and resetting the household funds back to what it was before you started.
I know it's a bit convoluted and it'll take a little bit of time to do but it should let you keep the sims together in the end and get you the romantic options back. You might want to consider doing it in another save and when you're satisfied that it worked, then move them back to the save they came from.
Hope this helps.

11 Replies

Coley666
4 years ago
I assume this is the thread you're referring to from 2018? https://answers.ea.com/t5/Technical-Issues-PC/Romance-social-interaction-not-showing-up-sims-4/td-p/6938566
Has either of your sims ever been a skeleton?
Did you try the cheat the thread advised anyway?
You can remove the trait with this cheats
testingcheats true
traits.remove_trait trait_hidden_skeleton
Do it on both sims - it won't harm them even if they've never been a skeleton
sammiesmith360
4 years ago
So i typed that cheat in, assuming you just select the sim you want to apply it to... right? No need to put names of the sims for it to work?
Either way, hasnt worked. Still giving me no romantic options. do I need to reset after? does it tell me if it did anything at all?
I wonder if i have issues because i originally bought the game two years ago, played for like 2 hours, got bored, and then just a couple weeks ago i came back to it. I created a new character- currently my sim's soulmate but cant be romantic. I literally did nothing so i have no idea if i became a skeleton or not. Maybe?
Any other suggestions? I am just typing it in wrong?
Thank you for taking the time to help!! @Coley666
Coley666
4 years ago
Yes, basically. Make sure the sim is active and the cheat should work.
Just to clarify though.
CTRL > SHIFT > C open the cheat command box where you need to type the cheats.
type in testingcheats true and make sure you receive the notification that cheats are active.
then type traits.remove_trait trait_hidden_skeleton < this won't give you a notificaiton but typed exactly like that it will work if the trait is applied to the sim.
choose your next sim
CTRL > SHIFT > C (in case the command box has closed)
type traits.remove_trait trait_hidden_skeleton
to be honest it doesn't sound like it's the skeleton issue but it's good to rule it out. Let me know if you did the above, or if you can do the above if it wasn't completed like that previously.
sammiesmith360
4 years ago
@Coley666 wow literally nothing is working with these two sims- maybe my game is busted. Its like both of them are stuck in this weird loop and i dont have any option to have them do anything new, its like i am still in the tutorial mode or something. I tried that again and nothing has changed. They still have romantic and flirty whims but no option. Im tempted to just restart and make a whole new world or something. I have no idea what is happening
CGrant56
Hero+
4 years ago
@sammiesmith360
Here's a couple of things you can try.
Travel away from the home lot and see what happens.
Take a look in CAS to see if there is any family type relationship - sister, brother or any relationship that would prevent the sims from being romantic with each other. Use the CAS.fulleditmode cheat before you take them to CAS. Enter the cheat at the map then take them to CAS from Manage Households. That way, if you find a relationship, you can then change it. If you can't fix it that way, then before you exit CAS, save the household to your library. Then you have some options. First, delete the household from Manage Households after you've saved them to your library. To break the connection between them, place the household to a lot from your library, then go to CAS and delete one of them. Then save that single sim household to your library. Then load the household again into a different lot and delete the other one. Save that single sim household to your library. Then, load them one at the time into a lot to get them back together again. Separating them like that in your library should break any family or other connections between them when they are reloaded. Then it's just a matter of getting them back in their jobs and resetting the household funds back to what it was before you started.
I know it's a bit convoluted and it'll take a little bit of time to do but it should let you keep the sims together in the end and get you the romantic options back. You might want to consider doing it in another save and when you're satisfied that it worked, then move them back to the save they came from.
Hope this helps.
daltonmitchell
12 months ago
I FEEL DUMB!
this also happened to me and i went through the whole cas process but it turned out it was because he was a young adult and she was a teen!
luthienrising
Hero+
12 months ago
@daltonmitchell This is part of why I use a "shorter teens" mod :D
Turtlesme_0421
12 months ago
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR REPLY, if not for you, I would’ve still been stressed abt this T_T. Ps I feel dumb too
CarmenMelissa
8 months ago
I just had this issue as well with trying to make my male sim flirt with a female sim. (I didn't create the sim, I used one of the pre-saved households in the game). Likewise, the romance social wouldn't come up. I then I had a thought that maybe male sim preferred men. I couldn't find a way to confirm since CAS doesn't let you edit pre-existing sims. I invited a male sim over and voila! was able to have romance socials with another male sim.
Not sure if this would help this specific problem, but maybe someone else will come across this and can help with their problem.
linkerhanden
4 months ago
I had this too. And it also doesn't show up for all my other sims. Someone Please help!