Unsolicited Friend Requests

Hello neighbour!

This seems tohappen a lot to forum regulars (even when they specifically state that they are not looking or would like a pm). When I still had space, I was constantly getting random requests with no pm - even though I asked for a pm in my sig. I still get a lot of random requests even though it says I'm full.

Don't feel badly turning people away - if they have not PMd you like you asked, then you have nothing to feel guilty about. There are plenty of opportunities for people to find neighbours (the add me thread stickied to the top of this sub forum, a whole sub forum dedicated to Finding Friends, participating in conversations here and meeting new people (who eventually become your neighbour - like we did :D ), and if you decline they can do those things to build their neighbourhood! :D

This doesn't sound petty at all! You have brought up some interesting points. I too hate saying no and my friends list is full. I will not turn down a random friend request, but I will not accept them until I have a nieghbor that hasn't played in a month. If those people are willing to wait I will eventually accept them but it bothers me to see that I have a request all that time.

Yup, I get them too, despite my "Got 100 Friends" badge and the message in my signature. I don't mind that much though, since I only get a couple a week, and I usually delete about 1 friend a week, so it's pretty convenient. I'll just delete a person, add a person, delete the other requests, and repeat.

No, it is not petty at all and you shouldn't feel guilty.
I find it very rude that people will friend request you without sending you a PM as you requested.
As Suetopia said there are tons of people who post on the forum looking for friend requests.

emymarek721 wrote:
This is probably going to sound petty. And I apologize if it does. But I'm amazed that, even though I specifically ask to be PM'd prior to a friend request, I still get them, regardless.

Sounds like how every woman I know describes Internet dating. Their profile specifically says stuff like, "Only email me if you're 25-40 years old and live in the same city as me," and they constantly get emails from 60 year olds 3000 miles away. :lol:

No petty at all dear neighbor, I always feel bad to but people have to read, no PM ? = decline, other case I check on my neighbors who is inactive for weeks or is not active on events (if events require help from neighbors) someone who buy all things, no prob for me but useless on events I letting them go and accept new neighbors (I first ask on PM why they dont help)

So dont feel bad dear neighbor :P

No, Emy, not petty at all! Even if I were to leave random requests as possible backups for friends who had stopped playing, I am then unable to add a friend of my choosing until the random requests have been deleted. My rationale is that they most likely got my name from reading in my signature that I will try to make room for forum regulars; where I clearly ask that I be PM'd first! Which, let me add is how we became friends! :-D

I have always said that I am so lucky to have such wonderful neighboreenos, and this thread proves that!! :-D :-D I want to show you all off to the world!! :mrgreen:

And thank you to my new forum friends. I meet the NICEST people on here!! ... (Even though I'm not exactly on the prowl for a date. :wink: *cough* moarku *cough* :lol: )

Thank you all for "listening" and letting me know that I'm not being petty. AND that some of you have experienced similar situations. I really appreciate that! :-)

OMG!!!!!

I just got SIX NEW friend requests!!

I think a few people are playing a trick on me. I NEVER get that many in one day.

Smartalecks... :P

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

If it says PM first or list full or similar I won't randomly add, it's simple courtesy.
However if I've seen them on the forum and like the cut of their jib, but there's no sig info or anything I'll just add, but I'm willing to wait too if they are full but haven't mentioned it, or leave it if they don't want to add!
But I get random adds a fair bit, and I quite like it, it makes me feel special :lol: p
Though I completely understand why random adds can be Iirritating for others or just simply don't like or want them!