Re: t's REALLY annoying that it can take up to 5 minutes to get in a match and land.

The matchmaking time is tied to your geographic location (i.e which server you're on) and the number of other players on that server who are also searching for a match at the same time.

It does not relate to the speed of your connection.

And as someone else said, (E)XP is awarded if you kill people, do stuff, survive etc and do not disconnect early.