apex legends kills my internet

I'm going to piggy back off this post as it seems to be the most recent. I'll be happy to create my own topic if no one reads this. 

This issue happens to me more frequently than I would like. I am playing apex with my friends and midway through the game for some reason it disconnects on me.

I get the code:wheel error or code:leaf error which typically means there's some issue with the server. I'll change servers but the issue persists (usually on Iowa, Virginia1 and 2 or st Louis)

When this happens my internet dies completely sometimes my wife's phone internet died as well as mine.  I look at my router and it says my internet is down but my modem says it's fine. 

I've tried someone's fix which is to change some triggering ports on my router and it still did not help. 

I am playing on PS4 hard wired directly to my router. It's a pro model but I don't know if that makes a difference. 

I've checked my routers system logs but I don't see any DOCSIS drops from my provider so I am suspecting it's either my router or the EA servers. This is the only game that kills my internet.

I would definitely be interested to hear any potential solutions that I can try on my end or if EA will look into the servers and identify whatever it is that keeps causing me to get disconnected and lose my internet.