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_awkwardlezbean
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3 years ago
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It says my sim needs to confess cheating but he didn’t cheat!

I’m so confused. It came out of nowhere. Both my sim and his wife have the loyal traits. He’s a university student, and we have my sims best friend and his wife living with us in our home so I don’t know if it happened at uni or with his BFs wife or what. That’s the only person I can think of that he “cheated” with, but I don’t see it because he’s been doing homework and stuff. He all of a sudden got tense and it said he had to confess. His wife wasn’t suspicious or accusing him or anything. It was fine until he told her and even now that he apologized, there’s no option to repair it.  I even checked his relationships panel under Romantic and there’s no one else there but his wife. What the hell happened?? I’m so frustrated because I had a whole story planned out for them and cheating throws a wrench in various things. I don’t get how it even happened, or how to prevent it from happening! I assumed that if both of them have the loyal trait, it wouldn’t happen. 

  • Its the loyal trait. The trait is … special. Your sim gets guilty if he talks to other in a flirty mode, he gets the feeling he has *cheated* if some other sims flirt with him. The whole trait is a mess and if you don’t suffer from mean bug, I would not recommend using it in this state!

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  • daikoyu's avatar
    daikoyu
    Seasoned Ace
    3 years ago

    Its the loyal trait. The trait is … special. Your sim gets guilty if he talks to other in a flirty mode, he gets the feeling he has *cheated* if some other sims flirt with him. The whole trait is a mess and if you don’t suffer from mean bug, I would not recommend using it in this state!

  • _awkwardlezbean's avatar
    _awkwardlezbean
    New Veteran
    3 years ago

    I was so happy to get this trait too. I thought finally they won’t flirt with other sims. But turning off NAP helped and then they added this trait and I was happy it wouldn’t happen anymore but now it is even more: even with their toddlers apparently 🤮

  • daikoyu's avatar
    daikoyu
    Seasoned Ace
    3 years ago

    Yeah, me too. I just wanted a trait which stop random flirting, not a trait which something completely illogical.

    Another problem is this trait cause an autonomy social action which give a big minus in friendship if your sim catches another sim in a mean action. I have a story which sometimes my character is mean to another (specially to his brother), and his dad now scold him for it! I play with autonomy off; I don’t want this action! So again, a trait which is too much for me. I changed his traits fast to unflirty again after I saw this.

  • _awkwardlezbean's avatar
    _awkwardlezbean
    New Veteran
    3 years ago
    @daikoyu So far, removing the loyal trait seems to be working so thanks for that.

    Yeah that’s what’s so frustrating, it messes up the stories you have planned for these sims and if you didn’t save recently, you’re stuck with it, the worst part too is having no way to remove that romantic interest bar: so my sim permanently has a romantic interest bar with her own child. It’s frustrating
  • xochiquetzl_xkvn's avatar
    xochiquetzl_xkvn
    Seasoned Ace
    3 years ago

    It looks like you found it, but, sadly, romance bars with children and toddlers is a bug that predates the loyal trait.

    https://answers.ea.com/t5/Bug-Reports/OPEN-Parents-have-romantic-interest-in-their-children/td-p/8043483

     And the game’s idea of cheating is just… 

    https://answers.ea.com/t5/Bug-Reports/Innocent-spouse-accused-of-cheating-because-NPC-is-flirty/m-p/10194585

     it’s there only thing that’s caused me to rage quit. Repeatedly.

  • rwyfh6yuyv5p's avatar
    rwyfh6yuyv5p
    2 years ago

    I tried but then after when the sim when whit a other sims he was not able to other stuff whit other sims it was still saying you need to confess 

  • xochiquetzl_xkvn's avatar
    xochiquetzl_xkvn
    Seasoned Ace
    2 years ago

    I said above that the game's definition of cheating "is just..."

    Let me be more specific.

    Your Sims consider their spouse not "rejecting" someone who flirted with them to be an offense equal to walking in on their spouse woohooing with another.

    This video (should be queued up to the right place) shows Sims rejecting flirting. https://youtube.com/watch?v=tE1OHODW_KM&si=EnSIkaIECMiOmarE&t=576 Accepting or rejecting socials is not something players have any control over.

    There's a tweet from a modder here that suggests that suggests that this behavior might be partly because there is no individual Sim context in a group conversation, just a group context. So, to use their example, if Bella and Mortimer are having a flirty conversation and someone joins them, Bella and Morty don't know who it is they feel flirty towards. They speculate that this is why the "awkward conversation" thing happens.

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