I had a sim with the Soulmate aspiration and got the goal "Get married to BFF". By the time I got the goal, I was in a relationship with Soulmate status. We got Engaged through the conversation option and then Married using the wedding arch during a wedding event. This did not complete the goal of getting married, which I think is silly. The goal should be fixed to include this scenario, since being Soulmates certainly includes being BFFs AND it's certainly within the scope of the aspiration. (Or I don't know if the problem was in the marriage method somehow.)

I just completed this aspiration. Here is what you have to do. First, develop a friendship AND a relationship with another sim. Once you have your friendship to the highest point, you will be given an option in the "friendly" interactions menu for "become best friends". Once you are married AND best friends, you will fulfill this part of the aspiration. I hope this helped.

> @SMJ6985 said:> I just completed this aspiration. Here is what you have to do. First, develop a friendship AND a relationship with another sim. Once you have your friendship to the highest point, you will be given an option in the "friendly" interactions menu for "become best friends". Once you are married AND best friends, you will fulfill this part of the aspiration. I hope this helped.That certainly worked. Thanks for the tip!

> @Elmawa said:> I'm having another issue with this aspiration. I got through what's mentioned in the OP just fine, now she's on level two and cannot progress. One of the requirements is stupid...you have to "apologize to spouse when they are angry", so, my sim had to insult her soulmate to make him angry (because I don't know of any other way to both make him angry and give her something to apologize for), then apologize. However she has enough charisma that the apologize option is now called "smooth apology", I had her do that a couple times but the goal never completed. I don't know if it's because the apologize option is named something else now, or what? I even tried resetting her, twice, and reloading the save.> So, either my game is glitching out, or this particular aspiration is borked... *sigh*, could really be either, I'm thinking it's time to start a new save because lots of wonky things have been starting to happen.For the Apologize while angry thing (because this pissed me off a lot and I almost had them as divorced trying to complete that goal) the best way to do that is to have the person with the soulmate aspiration to go and get into a fight with another sim and declare them an enemy. Then come home to your spouse and say one mean thing, then apologize. Smooth apology should work that time.It's what I ended up doing and it was the only thing that worked.

"Terrylin;12816543" wrote:"blufaery83;12816446" wrote:My sim has the highest relationship possible on both friendship and romance and I have no option to be BFF.I have read that many are having the issue with the BFF. It would seem that you can only have 1 BFF. :\ I made my 2 sisters BFF's when they were teens and haven't gotten the option with anyone else yet. I think it is either borked or they missed the plum ball with BFF and you can have only one. :( There's been a lot of discussion about whether that is a bug or intentional. The concept that is put forward is that someone can only have one "Best" Friend (Forever) -- there is the best, and then there is everyone else. So if you need to have 5 different BFFs, you need to let the relationship go with one so you can establish it with another.I'm not saying I agree with this interpretation. I'm just saying it's out there.

Soul mate isn't your bff, only your bff is your bff at the time! :D

Soulmate aspiration and BFF | EA Forums

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tyedye2719
New Spectator
11 years ago
Soul mate isn't your bff, only your bff is your bff at the time! :D
Trehek
11 years ago
> @Baristatye said:
> Soul mate isn't your bff, only your bff is your bff at the time! :D

Well, soulmate means having both high friendship and high romance, so if (s)he's your only significant friend (s)he is your bff, right? If we assume not and you'd have a bff in addition to your soulmate, won't it still make more sense regarding the aspiration to get married with the soulmate instead of the bff?

By the way, the aspiration stage AFTER this has a goal of becoming soulmates with your spouse. It would make sense to me that one of the following changes be made:

1) First have the goal "Gain a soulmate", then in the next stage "Marry your soulmate".

OR

2) Change the "Marry your BFF" to "Get married" and keep the "Become soulmates with your spouse" as it is.

The BFF thing should be removed because it can make the goal silly to achieve. Since stage 1 of the goal includes dates and a lot of kissing, it's quite possible that romance develops faster than friendship and denying that is a silly limit.
MissLiz2U
11 years ago
I'm having another issue with this aspiration. I got through what's mentioned in the OP just fine, now she's on level two and cannot progress. One of the requirements is stupid...you have to "apologize to spouse when they are angry", so, my sim had to insult her soulmate to make him angry (because I don't know of any other way to both make him angry and give her something to apologize for), then apologize. However she has enough charisma that the apologize option is now called "smooth apology", I had her do that a couple times but the goal never completed. I don't know if it's because the apologize option is named something else now, or what? I even tried resetting her, twice, and reloading the save.
So, either my game is glitching out, or this particular aspiration is borked... *sigh*, could really be either, I'm thinking it's time to start a new save because lots of wonky things have been starting to happen.
SMJ6985
11 years ago
I just completed this aspiration. Here is what you have to do. First, develop a friendship AND a relationship with another sim. Once you have your friendship to the highest point, you will be given an option in the "friendly" interactions menu for "become best friends". Once you are married AND best friends, you will fulfill this part of the aspiration. I hope this helped.
Trehek
11 years ago
> @SMJ6985 said:
> I just completed this aspiration. Here is what you have to do. First, develop a friendship AND a relationship with another sim. Once you have your friendship to the highest point, you will be given an option in the "friendly" interactions menu for "become best friends". Once you are married AND best friends, you will fulfill this part of the aspiration. I hope this helped.

That certainly worked. Thanks for the tip!
HoneyedToast
11 years ago
> @Elmawa said:
> I'm having another issue with this aspiration. I got through what's mentioned in the OP just fine, now she's on level two and cannot progress. One of the requirements is stupid...you have to "apologize to spouse when they are angry", so, my sim had to insult her soulmate to make him angry (because I don't know of any other way to both make him angry and give her something to apologize for), then apologize. However she has enough charisma that the apologize option is now called "smooth apology", I had her do that a couple times but the goal never completed. I don't know if it's because the apologize option is named something else now, or what? I even tried resetting her, twice, and reloading the save.
> So, either my game is glitching out, or this particular aspiration is borked... *sigh*, could really be either, I'm thinking it's time to start a new save because lots of wonky things have been starting to happen.

For the Apologize while angry thing (because this pissed me off a lot and I almost had them as divorced trying to complete that goal) the best way to do that is to have the person with the soulmate aspiration to go and get into a fight with another sim and declare them an enemy. Then come home to your spouse and say one mean thing, then apologize. Smooth apology should work that time.

It's what I ended up doing and it was the only thing that worked.
blufaery
11 years ago
My sim has the highest relationship possible on both friendship and romance and I have no option to be BFF.
FYREFLYERUSH
New Scout
11 years ago
"blufaery83;12816446" wrote:
My sim has the highest relationship possible on both friendship and romance and I have no option to be BFF.

Do some friendly interactions and it will appear buried in the friendly menu. They don't have to be single before they become BFFs. It can happen later.
terrylinn
11 years ago
"blufaery83;12816446" wrote:
My sim has the highest relationship possible on both friendship and romance and I have no option to be BFF.

I have read that many are having the issue with the BFF. It would seem that you can only have 1 BFF. :\
I made my 2 sisters BFF's when they were teens and haven't gotten the option with anyone else yet. I think it is either borked or they missed the plum ball with BFF and you can have only one. :(
phyllisp160
Seasoned Ace
11 years ago
"Terrylin;12816543" wrote:
"blufaery83;12816446" wrote:
My sim has the highest relationship possible on both friendship and romance and I have no option to be BFF.

I have read that many are having the issue with the BFF. It would seem that you can only have 1 BFF. :\
I made my 2 sisters BFF's when they were teens and haven't gotten the option with anyone else yet. I think it is either borked or they missed the plum ball with BFF and you can have only one. :(

There's been a lot of discussion about whether that is a bug or intentional. The concept that is put forward is that someone can only have one "Best" Friend (Forever) -- there is the best, and then there is everyone else. So if you need to have 5 different BFFs, you need to let the relationship go with one so you can establish it with another.

I'm not saying I agree with this interpretation. I'm just saying it's out there.