I've followed the above instructions for clearing/removing, although all i have is some clothes cc and a tiny mod for the blur, and tested again -- it's still happening. Details:
I'm on Windows 10, playing through Steam.
My packs tend towards countryside/supernatural and if they intersect at all with what an above poster said, it's strictly in the stuff/kits we got for free.
What i do in all my saves is go to the Village Fair (CoL) every Saturday, and since L&D to the Family Day earlier in the day. This means 2 things: i only get to the Gnome's Arms later in the day, and the bartender is always Sara, there's no shift change.
What happens: i check the market stalls quickly before they close and then make/submit the competition entries, meaning i can't catch the first moments of bar service. When i finally get there, i may or may not sneak in an order, depending on how many people are in. Sara always gets back to her duties after a while, and sometimes she serves what i'd had time to order, other times she taxes me again (haven't figured out when/why). The time of day is relevant because sometimes it takes so long for her to get back, that whatever holiday was in progress involving drinks (Night on the Town, NYE etc.) ends before i can get an order and end up having water from the tap in the last minute. There's an umbrella rack i placed at the door, but this also happens in the testing/noCC save i've just made.
My impression is that it ties in with the excessive socialization mentioned in other threads, and that she stays at the bar talking when it's a group conversation, but walks away when there is only 1 person talking to her. At least she doesn't go skating like the grocer, that one's hopeless if it happens.
No lastException file has appeared in the meantime. Lmk what other details would be useful.