I understand your frustration, but as a few have said I Disagree, there are 2 sides to this coin, You who loves to fly(and I assume a very good pilot) and there is me(who attempts to fly so I stick with AA which was my actual occupational specialty in the military).
Planes/Helicopters can duck in and out of lock height of missiles and have faster reload time on the flares than AA has missiles to shoot with slower smoke/thermal screen and health. Not saying one should be more overpowered but the correct Balance has to be there to enjoy the experience.
Weaken the AA equals overpowered Air or vice versa, my suggestion would be to allow both Jets and AA to select a secondary missile depending on the target type, allowing for a broader scope of intended use. Food for thought.