Kicked out of match at kick off in online modes.

This game is completely broken on PC, it’s actually shocking.

I stopped playing for a few months. I didn’t have any issues before hand and the game would run fine I just got tired of the game and the problems within it. Yesterday I decided I would hop back on and enjoy futties but no, EA found a way to take up all my time without me even being able to play a match.

I have a ryzen 7 5700x , rtx 3080ti and 32gb of ddr4 ram. It is not a hardware issue. I can load the game fine, and navigate the menus fine (all be it slowly because for some reason this game is now has the laggiest menus of all time) but as soon as I try going into a match, I’m kicked out and sent back to the menus. This only happens in online modes, I can play squad battles fine with no issues. I can watch the team come out but as soon as you get to kick off I get booted out and it says I lost connection to my opponent. Please don’t some smartass come in here and say. It’s probably your internet connection 🤓 it’s not. I have no issues on any other online games I play, even other ea titles such as BFV and battlefront 2. 
sometimes I can get past the kick off without being booted, if I am the one kicking off that is, my first controller input will work and then nothing, not even keyboard inputs. Absolutely nothing will work, other than pausing the game which I can then navigate the menus fine with my controller. It makes no sense. 
I’ve spent 2 days trouble shooting this and I now give up. I’ve repaired game files to no avail, reinstalled the game after that failed. Removed local app data, tried disconnecting cloud saves. Everything you can think of I’ve tried. I even bought a brand new controller and cable just on the off chance it was my controller playing up but no. I’ve got the latest game ready drivers from NVIDIA and I’ve even disabled every windows defence mechanism under the sun to give EA the chance to work. Updated, deleted and reinstalled anti cheat. You name it I’ve done it. I’ve had a 50 pay conversation with chat gpt trying to locate and fix the issue. 
what a joke it is. How can I play online game modes against the ai fine? My controller works fine in everything other than player vs player modes. Why do I get kicked out instantly. I know there’s some EA employee that is going to suggest the most basic fix’s but guess what sausage.. I’ve tried. This game is a broken mess on pc and I give up trying to fix it. I don’t know if anyone else is having similar issues, not that I can seem to find anywhere anyway. But if you are, give up. I’ve tried everything it feels like and nothing works. 
Theres probably grammar and punctuation mistakes in this but I cannot be asked to go back and check so deal with it as is. I’ve spent enough time checking things over the last couple days and I’m not adding this to my list. 
in conclusion F you EA