Weird disconnects and delays + about some gameplay

Im on Xbox and even tho the ping of the lobby is fine ive noticed more weird disconnects and delays lately and its usually happening against pc/ps5 players

I have a couple of fluid games where my player respond quickly but at times i have games where my very agile players move like trucks it doesnt make sense.. Same goes for Ai positioning, at times its good but then its suddenly so bad and no matter the changes i make it doesnt fix it and YES i do manual call for runs and stuff like contain+pressure etc and how they move on contain doesnt make sense to me aswell tbh at times...

Especially against 4-5-1 formations or others where they just park the buss and wait for counters...i cant play well against those at the best of times (i find it very borring to play against) but when there is some weird delay its absolutely hopeless and the opponent doesnt seem to have any delay at all.. I checked my connection and that is just not the issue.

These games are basicly the same the higher the division i get... people just wait and turn around and see where the Ai makes a weird positioning mistake and when i attack they just choose a cdm or a CB and hold contain and i lose the ball because my players dont position themselves smartly at all,, your so depended on ur own input i feel like and i can only call 1 at a time for a pass or run... and the opponent just closes in on my with ease.. im not sure what im doing wrong anymore i tried to find tips and tricks, I can't blame the game for all the **bleep** that happens,right? 

I tried Lb switching and right stick switching but it doesnt feel very good both of them.. i prefer lb anyways but when i try to right switch to my back line it can't and goes to another or just doesnt respond at al its very confusing... With corners for example it should auto switch in my opinion to the player thats closest where the ball will land..  I understand this game is more manual focussed but when i try t switch to the right player myself it just doesnt let me... Winning the duel if it does succeed is hopeless most of the times aswell even tho my player is super strong and a arial fortress.. its a good thing headers/volleys are absolute dogg*t right now otherwise i would have gotten goal against goal... me personnaly stoped using crosses because of the bad headers etc... wich is stupid tbh because stuff like that is a big part of football.. Also if i try to cross a ball no matter how hard i press it goos so slow..

Im kinda in between.. i like the game beeing more manual but its at times a bit to manual for me, its probbaly part a skill issue aswell i can't deny it but i just don't understand that the Ai defensive and on attack can't positioning themselve properly. unless u use certain very good players who have a lot of playstyles...

Also when u call for a run they just run straight forward a lot of the times and then bump against a defender or run offside.. i kinda would prefer they move  a bit smarter and slow themselfs down and move a bit to the side or inside, same goes for calling support.. it just looks very unrealistic/bad too me

The last thing is that the passing is soo **bleep** bad at times... pff that frustrates me the most tbh but not only me luckily,, i hope that gets improved... 

Greetings, Nostrova