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katitjv's avatar
katitjv
New Spectator
8 years ago

Different parenting styles

What kind of families do you have now with the Parenthood pack? Are the parents strict, or do they even care what the kids are doing? Or does one parent say one thing and the other something else?

I'm finding this quite fun with my three families I'm rotating between. I have three siblings, who have a very wealthy background (money cheats), and all of them have their own families with very different ways of parenting.

The oldest sister Beatrice is divorced and is trying to balance the business career with taking care of a clingy toddler. She's ambitious and wants her daughter to grow up well, so she's always strict with her.

Then there's Delilah, who's a widow with two girls, a teen and a child. I suppose she's trying her best to raise the girls, but she's only ever used the calm tone to for example tell the younger daughter not to make a mess. I think it's like, she knows she should say something, but she just doesn't feel like getting into it too much, perhaps just ignore it the next time. And anyway, the butler will do the cleaning up, so why get upset?

And finally there's the youngest brother Devon with wife Sophia and a teen son and a child daughter. Devon is really just a big kid himself, who's always had his way, so he would rather just be best friends with his kids. But then, he did, for example tell calmly that her daughter should not make a mess. Twice. But then, when he caught her the third time, he yelled, because, I suppose he just ran out of ways to handle the situation. Sophie on the other hand is trying to teach both kids good manners, but isn't very good at disciplining her son.

What kind of parents do you have in your games now?

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  • I have multiple families that i play with but they all fall into the same "parenting category." They are mainly free spirited and happy i guess but they can be very firm with their discipline. I want to have a family where both of the parents hate children.... that would be interesting
  • Goth583's avatar
    Goth583
    New Traveler
    8 years ago
    Right now my sims only have a toddler and they are very involved with her. They take turns working and spending the day with her. They are pretty relaxed parents for now, but once she ages up and starts school they might become a little more strict if the occasion calls for it.
  • Meka3211's avatar
    Meka3211
    Rising Newcomer
    8 years ago
    I'm playing the legacy challenge. My Sim, Phoenix, married Gabriel, a Sim who 'hates children'. I didn't know he hated children until they got married and moved him in. They had their 1st born, Gabriella (who is my heir) & a set of triplets...Luca, Lux, & Kai shortly thereafter. Gabriel, does not have any patience with any of his kids. He's always tense...he autonomously swears in front of them. Actually, he doesn't really deal with them at all. But when he does get involved, it's usually never good....as he is very strict, a no-nonsense kind of parent. I have Phoenix, being a very gentle, nurturer and when the kids were toddlers, I always used the calm interaction. The triplets are now kids...and so far they're all turning out pretty good, thanks to Phoenix. But Gabriella, who is now a teen...is like her dad. She is always in a mood swing, very tense all the time. & a lot of her character values are in the red. I did a random roll for her traits and she is gloomy, and hot headed. Really isn't what I had planned for the heir of my legacy to have jacked up character values, but it definitely makes for an interesting story line.

    Unfortunately, Phoenix didn't really have much time to spend with Gabriella, since she was practically on her own with the triplets. & since Gabriella is out of control, I find Phoenix, being a lot more firm with her. I'm really trying to reverse this dysfunction I got going on with the heir...but like I said, I think she'll be in the red for all the character values. I find Parenthood to be a mixture of interesting and chaotic....pretty cool how things can turn out. You can plan for perfect kids, but there could always be that curveball. I'm finding that the traits really do matter for all family members involved.
  • Has anyone managed to get a parent - child relationship that isn't in the 'little discipline' category upon ageing up? My more sadistic side has been playing with a parent that's been pretty harsh on his kids. Lots of punishments and discipline actions used but when my sim aged up into an adult his relationship with his Dad was categorised as 'passive parent' which seems kind of like a sick joke to diminish the pain I've put this guy through! Just wondering if anyone had successfully got any of their relationships categorised as having had a lot of discipline or being authoritative and if so if you have any hints or tricks to help me out?

    Thanks in advance and sorry for posting on an old thread - this is really bugging me and as a newbie I couldn't start a discussion so thought I'd try and find as relevant a post as possible!!
  • Perthelia's avatar
    Perthelia
    Seasoned Novice
    8 years ago
    Hi - yes, actually! I just noticed it last night for the first time when I had some triplets age up and I noticed the notations in the relationship box. I hadn't even been really aware of them because I hadn't really focused hard on using the parenting interactions until these kids. I'm sorry I can't recall the exact wording (I can check tonight though if you want) and with one kid it was something like "Very Involved" and the other was more like "Pretty Involved." I think the difference with this particular parent was he had the Super Parenting aspiration and I was trying to get him the last 3/4 of the tenth point during the last day or so before the triplets aged up, and also to get him into Super Parent mode which is also one of the milestones. He was absolutely spamming any parenting interaction that would come up, like satisfying chat, ask about phase (they were ALL having different phases, grr), influence to wash dishes or whatever else was available. When these guys were kids he did a lot of the firm discipline actions, but actually very few of them for two of the three triplets or after they turned teen, because they were already sickeningly well behaved and there wasn't much to discipline them for. :P

    I didn't get a chance to check the third triplet (she died almost immediately after aging up, but that's another story) but in her case I was trying to build the negative personality traits, so he didn't discipline her much nor did she get subjected to the parental interaction spamming because I was afraid that was going to drop her out of range to get the traits I wanted. But the "very involved with" triplet was definitely the one that received more of the spamming than the "pretty involved" because I kept her home from school the last day for that exact purpose.

    So I'm presuming that relationship marker is built not just on punishments/discipline, either positive or negative, but also on the rest of the general class of parenting interactions. If you were focusing on the harsher elements you might have avoided some of the others since majority of them seem pretty positive.

    I'm sure others out there have more experience than I do on this because like I said, I only really started focusing on this gameplay with the current family, so a lot of it is still new to me. :)

    ETA: I just checked and the two remaining triplets have "Daddy's Girl/Boy - the best relationship with a relaxed parent." The deceased one (who invited her dad out to lunch) has "Provided Happy childhood - a great relationship with a relaxed parent."
  • My simself who is now grown up and his wife have 2 toddlers the oldest, Simona is Fussy and Wild and Frederick is Angelic, I brought Parenthood yesterday and My simself David with Simona is mostly calm and firm and with Frederick he is Firm and Strict, I am seeing which style works best, Both must clean up or I will use firm or strict after asking once, I also tell them off calmly if they have a meltdown or hug it out. If Simona throws fits I am a little firm. The Curfew will be 7PM until they are teens and if when they are child age and good they will get to stay out until *PM, Curfew set to 9PM Though. I am also Praising the kids, overall, I aim to be balanced and My sim is not favouritising, he is just slightly stricter on Frederick as he is angelic.
  • I don't want to be a strict parent but man do those messes annoy me lol
  • The mom was easygoing, nurturing and calm, only punished if really needed. The father however was very strict with his children. Tough love shall we say. The kids are grown up now though.
  • I always play with autonomy off, so my kids don't get much chance to misbehave. Other than the toddlers disobeying (which usually gets a 'calm' response - I mean, if the kid doesn't want to play with blocks right now, they don't want to, okay?), they're model kids. I actually had to direct my toddler to make some messes and play in the toilet so that her mother could finish the 'discipline your child five times' aspiration goal. The one thing I want to discipline - the loud and obnoxious phase in kids and teens - doesn't have the discipline option. (It's a known bug.)

    It's usually at school that they get up to trouble - the kid might be the perfect angel at home, always taking her dishes to the sink, etc - but at school, they're hacking into the computers and exploding things in the chemistry lab.