Sorry, I missed this reply earlier.
I did delete that & the game runs a lot smoother. There's still a bit of lag when I queue them up actions or switch between active sims but it's far more playable. But the downside is now on these settings the windows are gray/opaque and you can't see through them, you can't see pool water, there's no view of the city everything out of the apartment is just blue, and the items are all pixelated and terrible looking. It defaults to laptop mode + low everything. I know it might be the price of playing the game but isn't there any way to improve how it works? I thought the ram would help but I guess it's a graphic card issue.
Loading still takes me anywhere from 25 minutes to an hour though, even with the graphic adjustments. I'm guessing it's due to having CC but even when I took it out it still took what seemed really long compared to other people, which from reading I think it might be save related since I've been playing the same family for several months. Is that graphics related or something else?