Hey chugbro1,
That would all be determined by which EA account is linked to your various other platforms. You can confirm connected platforms from this account page.
If you're just seeing your Steam info when logging in on your laptop, that would mean you have at least two separate accounts here, one with Steam and one with your PSN account. You'd need to link each platform to the same account to be able to access the account with your PSN friends and info from your laptop. Do keep in mind if you unlink a platform from its EA account, you will lose access to that progress. It does not transfer from one EA account to another.
We are not able to make any changes to your account status or progress via the forums, but if something was linked or unlinked incorrectly it may be worth contacting support to see if the original platform can be re-linked.