I have to ask you this question to better understand where you are coming from because I disagree with you at face value. The question is: "What is your input method, controller or mouse and keyboard?" Follow up question: "If controller; are you console or PC?"
This gives me a better understanding to state my case. You've taken the time to make well thought posts, the least I can do is provide the same in return.
I play on PC (keyboard+mouse) since BF2 but I got this account since BF3. U can check my K/D and other stats in previous games. Im not a total noob but also not a "hard-try pro wannabe commando seal". IMO vehicles are too weak, randoms usually dont help when they sit as gunner or passanger. I really enjoyed TTK/TTD in BF V and vehicles as well - although BF1 had nice vehicles gameplay too but it was sometimes frustrating when the driver was only utilizing his one-side gunner (prob teammate/friend) instead working together with both of them.
