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Re: Not getting Adopt as Caregiver Option (PS4)

I agree that the step parent feature needs attention.

For me, Adopt as Caregiver pops up in the Friendly conversation options once the friendship bar is above halfway, so once they have a really good relationship. It also only pops up on your home lot for some reason. It's appeared for my Sims once they all moved into the lot together, then greeted each other and built their friendship through conversation. Then it appeared as an interaction.

If that's not happening then it may be a bug. You play on console too don't you as we're both on the broken controls thread.

11 Replies

  • iamsweetmystery's avatar
    iamsweetmystery
    Seasoned Ace
    3 years ago

    @simsplayer818  Ah. Maybe their relationship isn't quite high enough. I think it's at about 2/3 right now. I'm pretty sure the Parenthood pack bypasses this and moves it to the Child Care social tab, but I don't have Parenthood on the PS4 version yet

  • simsplayer818's avatar
    simsplayer818
    Hero
    3 years ago
    @iamsweetmystery I have Parenthood, it's a good pack tbh. It's still in Friendly interactions for child age Sims but it may be different for toddler age Sims.
    I've just had a quick look in Bug Reports while I was on there to see if there are any reported issues but couldn't see any other reports.
    I have a feeling all of this will be addressed in the new family expansion pack that's on the way pretty soon, at least I hope it is.
    Most of my little Sims are adopted through the computer but I have had one widower marry again and his new wife luckily got high friendship quickly with his little boy, then she adopted him.
    I also had one family who lost their familial links to each other when I saved them and added them back into my game, they still had a high relationship though and I didn't notice till they were chatting with their daughter and Adopt as Caregiver popped up in the conversation.
  • iamsweetmystery's avatar
    iamsweetmystery
    Seasoned Ace
    3 years ago

    @simsplayer818  I have Parenthood on PC through EA Origin, but not on PS4 (yet). The PC is a shared device used mainly by my partner, but the PS4 is all me. I'm the only console enthusiast between us. (My partner isn't accustomed to consoles and finds the controllers awkward to use, but I've been console gaming since Atari7800, so it's second nature to me.) I've maxed the relationship between my Sim and her step-daughter, but still no caregiver option. Maybe it's tied only to Parenthood, but I could swear I've used it on PS4 before. Then again, maybe somehow I just got mixed up with elements from my PC content.

  • iamsweetmystery's avatar
    iamsweetmystery
    Seasoned Ace
    3 years ago

    @simsplayer818  The Successful Lineage Aspiration furthers my point about step-parents being delegitimized. One of the goals for that Aspiration is "Become a Parent" and it's not considered fulfilled. The goal "Socialize with Your Child 10 Times" doesn't count socializing with a step-child. So, yeah. You're married to their mother, you love them, take care of them, and nurture them, but too bad. You're not really their parent. You're just someone who hangs around. Doesn't mean anything. Kind of sickening to be honest. I seriously hope they put this right one day.

  • simsplayer818's avatar
    simsplayer818
    Hero
    3 years ago
    @iamsweetmystery Yes you're absolutely right about that and I hope it is part of the next steps for the Sims 4 to address it and to expand genealogy as a whole. I like big complicated family relationships between my households.
    I'll keep an eye out for this is my game. I just added an adult briefly to the Munch household to see if it popped up with little Lucas because I've seen it with other adults in households, even with a parent there. But it didn't pop up in conversation. So I'm going to keep looking out for it.
  • iamsweetmystery's avatar
    iamsweetmystery
    Seasoned Ace
    3 years ago

    @simsplayer818 People have been teaching for decades about how there are many types of families, but Sims 4 has been around for 9 years and they still haven't let us properly adopt step-children, which is something that happens all the time in real life. Because of this, step-parents miss out on Family-class Aspiration rewards. Anyway, if Adopt as Caregiver is exclusive to Parenthood, you'll likely have it available, whereas (at least on PS4) I won't since I haven't yet gotten that pack on that system. Though, I wouldn't mind if you tested if the Caregiver status allows the step-parents to use the Successful Lineage and Big Happy Family Aspirations. If you do test that, please get back to me and let me know if it's a viable workaround (though adopting step-children shouldn't really require add-ons, imo).

  • simsplayer818's avatar
    simsplayer818
    Hero
    3 years ago
    @iamsweetmystery I'll keep a note to test that. I'm adding my families back as I wiped my game because of crashing so I'll be putting my step parents back at some point. I agree, in fact when I see what the new expansion pack will be offering I don't think that should be paid content either, except for the new world.
  • iamsweetmystery's avatar
    iamsweetmystery
    Seasoned Ace
    3 years ago

    @simsplayer818 The infant life stage is going to be patched into the base game 4 days before the pack drops, but I'm not sure what else. I know they're adding events like baby showers. I think that should be base game too, but who knows. The usual pack stuff, like the world, new CAS items, and new build/buy items like the buildable treehouse make sense as pack content. That's standard fare for new packs.

  • simsplayer818's avatar
    simsplayer818
    Hero
    3 years ago

    So I've tested this now and ended up with more questions than answers.

    I added a single parent Sim (Sage) I've created before but this time I created her as part of the BFF household and linked her to Travis as his wife. I added her child aged son Linus from a previous relationship.

    Travis immediately had the option to adopt Linus as Care Dependant, but their relationship was not listed as step parent and stepson anywhere. I didn't get Travis to adopt him because they were only with him temporarily for testing purposes.

    Despite not being listed as his step father however, I added a family aspiration for Travis and he was still able to complete goals.

    Also, on a separate note every single social interaction between Travis and Linus absolutely tanked. It didn't matter how friendly each was to the other, it was impossible for them to get along at all. Even Heartfelt Compliment was the most epic of fails!

    It's lucky that I was divorcing them immediately anyway but Travis was in such a foul mood after that, he couldn't be civil to anyone so it was best Sage and Linus moved out quickly!

  • iamsweetmystery's avatar
    iamsweetmystery
    Seasoned Ace
    3 years ago

    It does all sound a bit odd and overcomplicated. Thanks for looking into it. Hopefully the new expansion or a future patch simplifies and pays proper respect to step-families.

  • simsplayer818's avatar
    simsplayer818
    Hero
    3 years ago
    @iamsweetmystery Yes let's hope so. They added Fiance in CAS, while Aunt, Uncle, Grandparents and Cousin are generated automatically as you link relationships together. Step parent should be the same instead of just Housemate. In fact they all should be there at the start.
    Fingers crossed for improvements to this soon.