How do you get a neglected child back?

"jadealix;12684549" wrote:

"Coffefreak4Life;12684483" wrote:
Ask Adrian Peterson im sure he knows

Well even just spanking your child counts as child neglect now days :| lol....

That just illustrates how Topsy-turvy today's world really is. Spare the rod, spoil the child. There's lots of truth in that axiom. If you're NOT disciplining a child, THAT'S neglect of the highest order.

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> That just illustrates how Topsy-turvy today's world really is. Spare the rod, spoil the child. There's lots of truth in that axiom. If you're NOT disciplining a child, THAT'S neglect of the highest order.

I don't agree. Is that how you solve problems as an adult; you assault people when you disagree with their actions? Why should physical punishment be the way you teach anyone, including children, that they have done something wrong? Physically attacking a child is just you losing your temper and succumbing to visceral behavior. The child doesn't learn to understand why what they have done is wrong, they learn to fear physical repercussions and therefore their mentality becomes, "Don't get caught," instead of, "This is wrong, because ."

Neglect constitutes lack of care while abuse constitutes active harm. So some people would call spanking abuse, not neglect. Furthermore, discipline is not synonymous with physical punishment.

This is also wildly off topic, and on an old post, so I won't be responding again. :)

"Solonneyda;14827734" wrote:
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> That just illustrates how Topsy-turvy today's world really is. Spare the rod, spoil the child. There's lots of truth in that axiom. If you're NOT disciplining a child, THAT'S neglect of the highest order.

I don't agree. Is that how you solve problems as an adult; you assault people when you disagree with their actions? Why should physical punishment be the way you teach anyone, including children, that they have done something wrong? Physically attacking a child is just you losing your temper and succumbing to visceral behavior. The child doesn't learn to understand why what they have done is wrong, they learn to fear physical repercussions and therefore their mentality becomes, "Don't get caught," instead of, "This is wrong, because ."

Neglect constitutes lack of care while abuse constitutes active harm. So some people would call spanking abuse, not neglect. Furthermore, discipline is not synonymous with physical punishment.

This is also wildly off topic, and on an old post, so I won't be responding again. :)

Agree! Where I live, you would go to prison for spanking your child. Imo spanking is abuse. Ofc you teach your child borders, but physical punishment is not the way to do it. Children should be raised with love and care, and be taught empathy, compassion and respect for others - and not by violence.

I know this is an old discussion, but I'm raising a child myself; using the "circle of security" method, and totally unable to stay out of a discussion like this.

Oh lawd y'all have brought the spanking vs. non spanking here lol .

Just exit the game without saving- hopefully when you log back on, he/she will be back! :D :D

New city living expansion has new careers which is allows you work at home. I hired a nanny to take care of my kids while I'm working, but nanny didn't manage 3 new born babies and one of them was taking away :( . I saved my game when I was away on work mission, when I came back icon appeared that baby is gone. And I didn't save my game and started it when I was still at work then I just evicted my entire household and placed it in different place. When I loaded my game back no one was going to take away my baby anymore and I was so happy :smiley: Before that I tried everything like: send other household to visit my sims and feed the baby, but baby would still be taken by social services, moving this household was the only way.

"Alira;15369096" wrote:
New city living expansion has new careers which is allows you work at home. I hired a nanny to take care of my kids while I'm working, but nanny didn't manage 3 new born babies and one of them was taking away :( . I saved my game when I was away on work mission, when I came back icon appeared that baby is gone. And I didn't save my game and started it when I was still at work then I just evicted my entire household and placed it in different place. When I loaded my game back no one was going to take away my baby anymore and I was so happy :smiley: Before that I tried everything like: send other household to visit my sims and feed the baby, but baby would still be taken by social services, moving this household was the only way.

Hello @Alira
I am sorry that this occured in your game. It was great that you were able to get the baby back :)

"GalacticGal;14582368" wrote:

"jadealix;12684549" wrote:

"Coffefreak4Life;12684483" wrote:
Ask Adrian Peterson im sure he knows

Well even just spanking your child counts as child neglect now days :| lol....

That just illustrates how Topsy-turvy today's world really is. Spare the rod, spoil the child. There's lots of truth in that axiom. If you're NOT disciplining a child, THAT'S neglect of the highest order.

There's other ways to discipline your child without having to lay your hands on them. Spanking is barbaric and violent. I can't imagine anyone hurting a child they'd love and making them cry out in pain. Maybe it's illegal now because they realize it was an outdated practice. There have been studies shown on animals through award systems only that prove they are more trained than the dog who gets their nose rubbed in their poo. My dad usually did it to me when I was a kid and it seemed like it was just a good way to take out his anger on me, even if what I did was on accident.. Time out when they're younger and grounding or taking away privileges just seems like a lot more reasonable thing to me instead.. Your kid won't grow up to be bad just because you didn't act violent towards them. There are other methods.

Anyway to topic at hand..

They included all the bad stuff from Sims 1, like characters being deleted after a fight and kids going to boot camp forever. Granted back then, it wasn't a big deal because they could easily be remade (head, body) but you would still lose all the progress you had with that sim.. They included limited life stages.. Then they got rid of all the cool staples, such as random scary events like unexpected deaths, firefighters, and burglars. Going back to the roots? More like making the game as basic as possible.. The game didn't even originally contain ghosts. Sims 1 always had them. Really? They rushed it out so fast.. I guess for story purposes, a child taken away is considered dead.. I better hope I saved recently, if that ever happens. I liked how another family could adopt them in old games (2 and 3). I can't believe they would be gone forever.. How ridiculous. Just like the baby object from sims 1.. It never grows up, if it gets taken away.

"promghost07;15370301" wrote:

"CelebrityWizard;786122" wrote:
my child on the sims 4 just kept playing the gaming rig while she was starving and had very low hygiene, I tried making her go get food but the gaming rig wasn't done until she finnished so i cancelled her action and then she got taken a safe place because of neglectment. It said i have to wait awhile and its been 3 sim days and i cannot find a way to get her back. please help

I feel your pain. This just happened to me. I'm so mad. I moved my Sim family and had twin baby girls in the household. I finished making the house and as soon as I go to live mode, I get the notification that they've been "whisked away" due to neglect. plum?

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Try going to manage worlds and evicting your sims household. Then go to manage households and place them in another home, and see if the babies are back with the family.

"rosemow;15370307" wrote:

"promghost07;15370301" wrote:

"CelebrityWizard;786122" wrote:
my child on the sims 4 just kept playing the gaming rig while she was starving and had very low hygiene, I tried making her go get food but the gaming rig wasn't done until she finnished so i cancelled her action and then she got taken a safe place because of neglectment. It said i have to wait awhile and its been 3 sim days and i cannot find a way to get her back. please help

I feel your pain. This just happened to me. I'm so mad. I moved my Sim family and had twin baby girls in the household. I finished making the house and as soon as I go to live mode, I get the notification that they've been "whisked away" due to neglect. plum?

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Try going to manage worlds and evicting your sims household. Then go to manage households and place them in another home, and see if the babies are back with the family.

I have to thank Rosemow for the idea of evicting the household.

I was in similar circumstances. One of my teenagers was out on an extended date while, unbeknownst to me, Baby Spencer was being timed out for neglect. (I make a habit of ending the date by selecting return home but instead of waiting for the SIM to return to a spawning point, I Save & Exit to Manage Worlds. If I did not do this, I think I could have exited the game without saving upon return to the household.)

From the Manage Worlds screen, the family still included the baby-bottle icon, which indicated that the family still included Baby Spencer. But upon entering the household, the child had just been whisked away to a safe place, and every family member related to Baby Spencer was SAD.



Knowing that I could not save the game while Baby Spencer was already whisked away, I exited the game *without saving* several times trying to re-enter the household to see if there was a possible alternative outcome. But that didn't work. Each time I re-entered the household, Baby Spencer had already been whisked away.

So, I followed Rosemow's advice.

From Manage Worlds, I evicted the household and tried to move back into the same household.

I was surprised to find that the family could not afford to buy back their old house. I had to go into the house in build mode and delete some of the household items. I was in a little bit of a panic because there were personalized items in the home that I could never buy back, and I was afraid that the move would delete these items. From build mode, I sold off: a wet bar, a treadmill, a wedding arch and a television. The price of the house was now within the family's budget.

Bottom line, it worked. I saved Baby Spencer.

Thanks,

Pete