How do your sims find someone that they really have a good romantic chemistry with?

Normally my sims don't have any trouble in finding their special someone, but I did have this one sim who had the worst luck when it came to love. I really wanted this sim to be able to find love and to produce the next generation, so I asked others on this forum who wouldn't mind me using one of their sims, and as a result, my sim found her soulmate. They ended up producing some of the most adorable offspring that I have had in any of my game saves.

There are other sims that I do play, and for some reason having that special someone was just not important to them. In those cases, they usually ended up adopting.

I watch how my sims interact autonomously. Are they seeking out a particular sim for conversations a lot? How are the convos going? Do certain sims call my sim on the phone a lot? That kind of thing.

"So_Money;c-16863081" wrote:
I watch how my sims interact autonomously. Are they seeking out a particular sim for conversations a lot? How are the convos going? Do certain sims call my sim on the phone a lot? That kind of thing.

I do this too. Most recently for example a Sim of mine had a few choices and I was not sure which way to go. Then she threw a party and the dishes started to pile up everywhere. One of the male Sims she was interested in just started to help her clean up and he did not even have the "Neat" trait. It just seemed very thoughtful and sweet, so that's the one I went with. On the other hand I currently have another Sim that I cannot decide for at the moment. So I quit playing her for now. I set her as my avatar picture, so I don't forget about moving things along for her soon.

I'm in the same club as @So_money and @Netzpannung, I generally make the decision based on how the sims interact on their own. Where I get in trouble is when I overthink it myself...as evidence by a recent thread where I asked for help from the forums. If I just let my sims decide and then run with it, they do a decent job.

Here's what I did. I had my sim go to a place with a lot of foot traffic, like a cafe, and had her chat with 3 people that were good looking enough to be potential love interests. Then over the next couple of sim weeks, I had her spend approximately equal time with them, either on official dates or just hanging out. I had her chat, flirt, and kiss.

When looking at the green and pink bars, one guy was clearly not a favorite, so I asked him to "just be friends" early on. Within a couple of weeks, she had full pink and almost full green with one guy and only about 30% pink and green with the other, so then she became the girlfriend with the guy she "chose" and asked the other guy to be friends.

The only sad thing about this is that I liked the 30% guy more, but I had to give her what she wanted.

The guy she chose:
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The guy I would have chosen if it were up to me:
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As others have mentioned already, autonomy can really say a lot, especially in a sim you're not controlling. Is the sim you're not controlling adding to the conversation? Better yet, do they go out of their way to interact with your sim? Does your own sim queue up socials autonomously while talking to a particular sim? Sometimes allowing your sim to take control of themselves is a good thing. Speaking of autonomy and finding potential romantic interests, one of the sims I created to play after GF came out built a friendship with Venessa Jeong incredibly fast. Let me tell you, she is one of the sweetest sims! Whenever she would see my sim in public, she'd autonomously come over to hug her or chat. And I do mean every. single. time. :lol: This is a good example of what I personally look for in potential love interests for my sims, and they've always had great chemistry.

Another thing I do is keep an eye on how quickly a friendship develops when your sim first meets another. There have definitely been instances while I'm playing where it seems like no matter how friendly and funny your sim is, the green bar just won't move very fast. Other times, you don't even have to direct much of the conversation and the sims build a friendship in almost the blink of an eye. If they get along well, seek one another out for conversation autonomously, and develop a friendship easily, you've more than likely found a great potential love interest. :smile:

I'm really interested in this thread because I have trouble finding a good flow for hooking up my Sims in Sims 4. They seem to be similarly attracted to everyone, lol.

In Sims 2, I played a lot with University where most of my Sims would meet and circulate. Using the chemistry system, it was much easier to see which Sims were attracted to each other. Sometimes I would try to nudge them in a direction, but if they didn't seem to go with it then I let them date who they wanted.

Thanks everyone!!

I got a good relationship with a sim going, will be more observant and a let my sims do a little bit more on their own next time around. Really like the idea of giving suitors equal time and opportunity and just see what the green/pink bars says. Also try to let them seek out each other on their own. Guess I'm a bit of a micromanager when it comes to my sims but this is one area when I just have to step back a little bit :) less managing and more watching.

Cheers!

Sims in TS4 can potentially have a happy romantic relationship with basically any other sim. I wish we had an attraction system but since we don't I basically choose myself for them. Many of my sims have "arranged marriages" meaning I know who I am hooking them up with since they are basically children since I play rotationally and only have my sims interact with sims I myself create.
If I want to get out of that and have sims play the filed, and then become indecisive about with whom should they settle down, I just wait and see which sim calls my active sim more for example.