3 years of not being able to play multiplayer in any EA game

Have you tried alternate DNS settings? Instructions for that can be found here.

Not exactly sometimes it won't even load me in and other times the queue does nothing, seems like it's different everytime, which sadly just gives me false hope. NHL, 2k, PGA, Madden. Haven't bought them in an awhile but since 23 none of it works so i stopped trying. Just weird it's consistently terrible with good wired internet

I'm not saying you need your own modem and router. You can certainly keep using the equipment supplied by your ISP. It's possible you'll see an improvement with better equipment though. 

So, you can join multiplayer games, but are then disconnected shortly after? What other EA games is this happening with?

Also on a wired ethernet connection, if you're telling me I need a modem and a router I want a refund on all the games i have bought since 23'

My issue is I haven't been able to join a multiplayer game since mid 2023! It is only EA games too!!. Every other game works completely fine with no lag. Again since it feels like i'm talking to a wall i message you guys, EVERY OTHER GAME I PLAY WORKS FINE. I was able to load into a game last night actually... lasted about 7 seconds before the whole game crashed

Can you give me more details? What exactly is your issue?

The speed of your connection is very much secondary to a stable connection. Personally, during gameplay, I'm probably under 100 MBPS and rarely ever have any issues. This is also due in part to using a good modem and router. Not the equipment my ISP provides.